I belong to an oriental canservative society, and talk about sex is often considered as a taboo. Yet wanted to clear a confusion and hope i would get help from the worthy members.
I am a single 26 years of age, and have no plans to get married atleast within the next couple of years. In our society marriage is the only legitimate sexual outlet. Now as im not getting married , yet i feel a lot of sexual tension. Now my question is , if its wrong to masturbate while watching internet porn. Because I masturbate atleast once a day while watching that. And another thing is that in my real life I haven't tried to reach out to any woman for any sexual relationship, which i would like to establish only after my marriage.
Now is it really harmful to give a vent to my sexual tension while watching internet porn?
Waiting for answers.
Sat, 06/23/2007 - 11:33
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A query about internet porn....
I am not sure of your beliefs. But you need to release your sexual tenstion, that is healthy. If it's to porn, so be it. Do what is right for you.
That is a moral question and the answer is different for every person.
It is only harmful if looking at porn becomes compulsive or all consuming therfore getting in the way of other activities. I believe a little viewing is OK, however, I'm a big fan of a furtile imagination and woul urge you to cultivate that and play those scripts in your head while masturbating.
Personally, I find the new generation of porn exhasperating because few people ever climax. Oh! they go through a very prolonged build up and when about to climax, either do not, or, the camera switches to a new script and scenario. This is not how movies were made several years ago; then every actor had a climax or two. This is another reason for using your imagination and creating scripts in your head.
I have a problem with porn on a moral and an efficiency level. I would much rather have actual sex than view porn, especially when sex is so easy to get. I also have a problem with porn because of the objectification of women. Even in the past when I would have sex with a girl without loving her, it was always with a female friend. I've never had a one-night stand. I have a problem with the "using" aspect of porn, and it just feels wrong. As dancingdoc2 said, it is also addictive. That being said, your views may vary.
And, I can identify with your "conservative society." In my family and culture, sex before marriage is VERY taboo. Also, sex isn't really talked about, and my father never had a "the birds and the bees talk." It was handled as "here's a book about it, so go read."