Ok you should take a second to check out the boards. It has plenty of info to answer almost any questions.

I am not really sure how to post links, so I will give you the gist of what other threads say.

1) Her clit (as with most women) becomes too sensitive when aroused. You must be gentle and usually you can stimulate it through indirect pressure. If your girlfriend doesnt like it dont do it.

2) Wanting it deeper but it hurts...Look at an anatomy book. During arousal, the inside of the vagina expands to accept a penis. Same things apply just with your finger. Be extremely careful when putting your fingers (or penis) in above the cervix. This place doesnt expand, and can cause severe internal problems. The cervix, (a little tiny lump with a cleft in the middle) can cause pleasure in some women. but generally its not so good. Right below the cervix is the place to be. More specifically the posterior fornix. This is more than likely what caused her to come...next time, find her cervix carefully and then go below it.

3) Many women love deep penetration. This is normally because they enjoy the sense of fullness and the pressure it causes on other nerves (since non are inside)

[quote]So I have 2 questions:

1) What about a woman's anatomy would make her think that sticking a finger in deeper and deeper would be the right 'spot' to make her come? (She claims it's happened before, just have to find the right spot. I thought the right spot was the clit which is not all the way inside like that, it is at the top over the entrance. But it's almost like she didn't want me near her clit and i really don't understand this.) [/quote]

The vaginal vault is devoid of nerves yet what many women report is that they enjoy a sense of fullness that a penis, dildo, finger(s) provide; therefore, this must be a psychological event.

A finger can only go so far and often less than many penises.

The G(rafenberg)-spot is a spongy area about the size of a quarter two inches inside along the anterior {front) wall of the Vagina. It has rudimentary connections with the male Prostate and feels very good to many when rubbed. Unlike with guys, the spot can often trigger an orgasm.

The Clitoris is not over the top of the Vagina; rather above it at the junction of the left and right Labia Minora (lips). The tip (= Glans) is exposed while the shaft is buried beneath the skin of the upper vulva. Many, although not all, women can experience several different types of orgasms, each coming from a different trigger (Clitoris, G-spot, Vagina).

The tip of the Clitoris is vastly more sensitive than the Glans. A much softer touch is usually called for (along with lube). The clitoris can become hypersensitive to the touch mimicing pain immediately prior to an orgasm. When she indicates that this has happened, a wise and caring lover will switch tactics and use the indirect approach. This can be any of the following:
* folding the labia over the clitoris and massaging it through them
* tugging, massaging, and manipulating the labia thus stimulating
the Clitoris indirectly
* rubbing the shaft of the Clitoris

The sensation of pain is temporary and will subside shortly after climaxing. The flip side to this is that guys experience the same sensation only ours manifests itself immediately after a climax.

[quote] 2) What is the safest, most basic fingering technique to make the average woman come? (of course i know every woman is different, but this is the second woman who has asked me to insert a finger DEEPER, no where near the clit. So I am trying to understand what about using fingers makes a woman want deep penetration. [/quote]

Ask her to demonstrate how she fingers herself and then to guide your hand in order for you to learn her technique.

Please read through the Index. There are several articles that will be helpful to you.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Doc what about the cervix? I know that it can cause intense pain if its hit, or more or less poked.

Right on, Ducy. Thank you for jogging my brain. The o/p should ask his girlfriend more about this and where the pain is located.

It doesn't sound like the two of them are having intercourse, so this leads to the next two logical scenarios: First, that it is the hymen that is being poked or rubbed; second, that the vaginal opening is small and any stretching is causing the discomfort. So, is it Window #1, Window #2, or Window #3. Only she can provide the needed insight.

Thanks.

If you asked her to stoke faster should she ask why? She is the woman and she knows what feels good at that moment. Tomorrow may be different.

The vagina, as Doc says, does not feel it but the movement of or against other muscles gives a sense of fullness that can be pleasant. The G-Spot, if it exists, could be getting stimulated as well.

Generally, do not worry about the cervix. Yes, we get occasional pangs when it is hit just wrong but that does not happen often. Our ovaries are as sensitive as your testicles but they are well protected. The cervix rarely feels more than a slight and transient discomfort. A slight change in position corrects that.

The safest and most comfortable approach is what she wants at the time. If that is on the cliotris, OK; if she wants deep penetration, do it. She is your guide, not any book.

An anatomy book will show you the three areas: the clitoris, the G-Spot and the posterior fornix. Study up both from the book and from her where they are and how she likes them stimulated - most can orgasm several times from each area but this is not guaranteed.

Since your lady wanted deeper - it is most likely that she had had her posterior fornix stimulated previously and wanted you to try it. This area is more easily reached and caressed using your penis rather than your hand.

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