I'm going on 18 now so I'm not a little kid curious about puberty. I'm about average sized and I'm not happy about it. I figure I could make up for my lack of size by improving my technique. Well, before my recent relationship I didn't really explore certain areas of the vagina. I found out that my girlfriend really likes the G spot stimulated after fingering her to get the response "How did you know where the spot was?" Major boost of confidence, but not good enough for me, because my intercourse is lacking experience. After talking to her I found out that she found it weird that after sex, I go limp almost immediately. Is that abnormal? And also, I always thought girls liked to spoon and be held after intercourse, but she always lays with her back toward me, not letting me touch her only to lay my arm across her midsection.
I don't know what to make of it, but I'm "the rebound guy" after she was in a relationship for 4 years, and we started dating just days after they broke up. I'm thinking it may be that she has a lot on her mind, but I could be wrong.
Also, is there any certain foods or dieting that would help me "last longer". I haven't had problems before, but since I actually care about this girl and plan on having a long term relationship with her, I get nervous and I can't relax, because I'm actually trying to please her, rather than get my rocks off.
I've tried most of the things on this site to prevent ejaculation, but they don't seem to work. Instead of jetting out like a garden hose...it just seeps out. Another curiousity of mine is I'm not getting much pleasure from her. I find myself sticking with the g spot since I know she likes it and I get stimulated too, but there's a good bit of room in there and it makes me feel really small. She admitted to having sex up to 10 times daily with her ex and I'm curious if her vagina will eventually "shrink", making it better for me.
With this list of problems, surely some of my questions will get answered, and I thank you in advance.
Hi DazedandConfused,
I just wanted to say- as a guy who has experienced a few guys...lol- that you sound perfectly "normal" to me.
It's not unusual to lose your erection after orgasm. Many guys do.
I'm not sure what you mean by "average size", but, personally, I've never encountered one too big OR too small. Technique is MUCH more important than size. Please, don't worry yourself over it. Remember the line from "Witches of Eastwick" when they are creating the perfect man... "As long as it works, it's in!"
As far as your technique goes, it sounds like you are on the right track. Find out what pleases your partner ( and each one is different!) and do that. You seem to have figured that out... Good for you!
Most important is communication. Talk to her about trying new things to stimulate you both. Manual, oral, and intercourse are ALL great ways to reach orgasm.
Take care.
Yes, you did. Makes me feel a little more comfortable about everything. This place is really cool. Nobodys here to laugh at ya, just help you out with experienced advice. Thank you very much. I got a sense of humor too, I took no offense to your joke, though you're right. We had a little argument and we're on the verge of resolution. Turns out I did take things too quickly.
From my experience
My b/f will be hard maybe a minute after he cums and then he'll start to go soft.
Some guys can cum and just keep going not really losing their erection entirely, just a little.
Its all different. And most guys, especially who are young, have no trouble getting another erection soon there after.
I don't necessarily have to spoon after sex.. just lying there close is good for me. He and I are usually sweaty, lol, eww and he's all drippy and I dont want that on my back, lol. again!
There have been lots of threads about lasting longer.. anything from desensitizing cream and condoms, to masturbation before intercourse.
I guess your g/f could do the Kegel exercises to tighten a little down there.
I know I can tell if say my b/f and I have sex regularly (not 10 times a day, geesh, who has the time? lol ) like 1-2 times a week maybe. And then when I go visit my family for 2 weeks, we are apart. I'll notice the first time we have sex after I get back, I am noticebly tighter.
Guess you should have waited longer than a few days after they broke up, lol, sorry just a joke :P
Ok well hope I helped w/ some of your questions
[QUOTE=Quote (dazedandconfused @ May 04 2005,08:47)]Yes, you did. Makes me feel a little more comfortable about everything. This place is really cool. Nobodys here to laugh at ya, just help you out with experienced advice. Thank you very much. I got a sense of humor too, I took no offense to your joke, though you're right. We had a little argument and we're on the verge of resolution. Turns out I did take things too quickly.[/QUOTE]
glad things sorted themselves out 4 u! this board is gr8...the answers to any sexual/ relationship Q u could ever need! and of course...regardless of age, evry1 is treated the same. i love this board - i cnt believe how clued up i'm becoming..! no-one would laugh at u or say ur prob was ridiculous...evry1 on here's just too nice