[QUOTE=SouthernFF]Thanks...this helped me alot..lol..yea we've kinda discussed it a little, and i've told him that im a virgin and stuff..and we planned on havin' sex @ our friends house, and stuff..where i know that they wouldnt let that happen(STD's or stuff) cause they know that to, and know that i will be kinda scared since im still a virgin and know how much i like him..so thanks..it helped me out a lot[/QUOTE]

Your friends won't let you get an STD? :confused: Now I'm confused.

Look, if you're determined to do it then be safe. Make him use a condom and don't do it drunk.

This is momentary passion we're talking about here since there is a 1 in 1,000 chance that you actually have a future with this guy. So just be smart about it.

Here's the thing: If you decide to have sex at the prom, what's your plan? Are you going to share a hotel room afterwards? Go back to your parents' place? I ask because the main thing is you want to be comfortable the first time--not all scrunched up in the back of a car, or worried that someone might walk in and see you, or that they might hear you if you're too loud. You want to be completely relaxed and comfortable. Also, you want to make sure you're prepared. Has someone bought condoms? (You don't want to wind up pregnent or with an STD the first time you have sex) Do you know how to use them correctly? Have you discussed with your partner your intention to use condoms, so you both know in the heat of the moment that you have to put one on? If you consider all this ahead of time, and you do care deeply for this person, and the time really is right (you have a nice, private place to be alone together and are prepared), then I won't be the one to tell you you're too young!

uncertainties usually mean red flag (don't do it). get a relationship first, or go out the classic way that most people do.. at a after party while drunk.

i dont suggest getting drunk at 16, she's underage and that would be illegal.
my 8th grade "prom" was last night....thought i'd mention that.

it sounds like nervousness to me, seeing as it would be your first time.

anyone care to agree/dissagree?

No problem! Just remember that if you do decide to do it, be safe...and only do it if it really feels right!

My daughter, who is also 16, won't have sex with her boyfriend during prom season because it is "too cliche" (her words). She is still a virgin (so far)...but she says she won't stay one for long

[QUOTE=2hot4him]My daughter, who is also 16, won't have sex with her boyfriend during prom season because it is "too cliche" (her words). She is still a virgin (so far)...but she says she won't stay one for long [/QUOTE]

At least your daughter is honest. Most parents are in complete denial that their kids are having sex when, in fact, they are having sex all over the place. Your daughter coming clean saying she doesn't plan on staying a virgin for long means she probably still is one. Congrats :) and maybe when I become a parent, I'll call you? Need pointers on daughter-tips :)

hm yea we could form a parenting team headed by 2hot4him

I'm still a virgin, my prom is in a month, but my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex sometime in the very near future...we've been smart about it though, we've discussed it, we're comfortable with ourselves, and I even talked to my mom so she brought me to the gyno to get an exam and birth control (but we're still using condoms!) so...hopefully you'll all be as lucky as my mom, and have incredibly open children.

by the way exscuse my ignorance but what is the prom (a dance perhaps ?)

[QUOTE=Newtolove]by the way exscuse my ignorance but what is the prom (a dance perhaps ?)[/QUOTE]

Yes. It's a big, overhyped dance that nearly all American students attend at the end of highschool .

oh i see thats what i thought

Something worse then not knowing if you should have sex is knowing you can't....
my B/F and I have been together for two years, and love eacvh pother very much. our graduating prom is next month and we're getting a hotel room, just to have a day or two of complete privacy...but we can't have intercourse. We do everythign else, but my lack of doctor/birth control pill leaves us uneasy about the chance of pregnancy. (We both a family history of high fertility, and h himself is a "broken condom").
So...don't feel bad for yourself, feel bad for me!! Lol...:)

My parents know. There is no secrecy...they know I want to have sex....and there is no "health departement" route except sitting for at least five hours ion outpatients, whic I can't do because of school, 30 hour work weeks and a bad family history, medically. I need to speak to a doctor who can take the time to figure out what will be safest for me.

We have proms in england too you know! mines sometime in june i think. and then its uni for me. no sex on the agenda though! well at least none intentionally! and as i dont have a girlfrend there probably wont be!

If you're ready, you're ready. If you're not, you're not. No one knows how you feel and no one can tell you what to do. I was 14 when I lost my virginity to a guy I'm totally inlove with. People told me I was too young, but age doesn't matter.
If you think about it right now and you want to, then it won't hurt to try as long as you're safe. But once you get to the bed, if its not right, then don't do it.
As long as it makes you happy, its the right choice.
Good luck!