hi, me and my girlfriend are both 18 and we feel we are ready to do it for the first time. we tried the other night but really struggled to get it in, im roughly 6 inches but that's normal ish?
ive fingered her for about 10 minutes on end trying to loosen her up and still we cant get it in and we've tried serveral positions. though it has only been with one finger so shall i try 2, would that loosen her up enough to allow me to get it in ok?
cheers!
Ok don't worry, it CAN go in. When I first started out "trying" to have sex it took way more than one try I'll tell ya lol...when It seemed hard getting it in I thought "Okay...it just can NOT go in, whats the problem here." Well the problem first off is that kind of thinking, if you think it CANT, it wont, but if you think YES IT CAN, it will!
Were designed for something to go in us but it just takes a lil time and maybe even more time for others. The only reason it doesnt seem to go in is cuz shes not well lubricated down there or shes tensing up every time you try to go in. If your the one trying to enter her, try doing it the other way. Let HER guide your penis in at her own pace. Your gonna get to that point where she feels a lot of pressure on the inside and it may feel like it cant go in...well...thats just the ONE part that needs to be passed...yes you can finger her to help stretch it but the only way its really gonna be fully stretched is if your penis gets passed that one point *which meaning the hymen, the part most girls dont like to deal wit* Hell, even I didnt want to deal with it, but you have to! So dont worry that it cant go in, cuz it CAN!!! Just be well lubricated and have her guide it in, you just be there for her and tell her its all gonna be okay and that she can do it and you love her etc ect...! Remember to let her take as much time she needs to let it go in...k?
Is it painful for her? What do you mean "not getting it in?" Is she crying out in pain? Are you not hard enough? Is she not wet enough?
If she's a virgin, it may be very hard to get it in the first time and just go for the gold.
If you have only used one finger, take a look at that finger next to your fully erect penis. Notice a bit of a size difference there in girth?
Yes, try two fingers, work up with little baby steps. It can be extremely painful for a girl her first time and extremely emotional, too. She is also probably half terrified, yet another reason she will be VERY tense and tight.
Have patience, don't get frustrated and let it all progress naturally. I'm sure she feels bad and is also confused. Good luck!
I would start usuing two fingers or make sure she is more relaxed. Start off slow like you always have with one finger and then switch to two.