Ok, this one is really quite gross, and I'm actually very embarassed to even have to post it, but I figure you guys dont know me from the next girl, so here it goes!
About two years ago I was w/ my first boyfriend, and I didn't want to have sex. Well...I guess he kept pushing saying there were "other ways" of doing things without me actually losing my virginity. Too this day, I'm not sure why I let him do this, but I let him try anal sex, twice. The first time it only lasted a second or two because it was uncomfortable, but he was not gentle, didn't go slow....for him, it was all about getting what HE wanted, and he didn't give a rip about me.
Anyway, the second time, I let it go quite a bit longer. It probably wasn't that long, it just seemed long cuz I was miserable. Again, he didn't bother taking his time.
The first problem was that I felt like I either needed to poop a BIG FAT poop or just fart really badly. I mean...I guess it makes sense....but I was embarassed to death that I'd make some nasty fart noise that would only be worsened by the fact that he was shoved inside me. This was only problem number one.
When he finally pulled out (after I begged him to stop) his penis was...um....brown and gross. Yeah, you guessed it. Poop. He said "This has never happened to me before..." and went to the bathroom to wash up. Well, as it turns out I basically had lost control of my bowel funcion, and had to run to the bathroom as soon as he got out, and just let everything come out, with an array of noises I had never heard myself make. I must have sat on the toilet for 30 minutes, just because I was afraid to face him. It was like diarrhea, and it just kept coming, and I couldn't control it whatsoever.
So needless to say, this was a VERY embarassing situation for me and I vowed to never let it happen again. Now I've been with an amazing guy for almost a year. I KNOW he wants to do anal with me, but he doesn't push because he's just one of those guys who actually cares about me and wouldn't want to doa nything that I don't want. Well....I LOVE doing things to make him happy, and I've been considering trying again....and I know he would be gentle and go slowly, but I'm scared to death of the "uncontrollable farting and pooping" scenario again. I mean, I'm much more comfortable w/ him than I was w/ my ex, but I just know that would humiliate the crap out me...literally!
Any advice on this? Has anyone else ever had this happen to them? I know it's SO gross to talk about....but I really need to know!
Thanks so much!
Thanks a lot....I guess my ex was just pushy, and because I didn't know what I was doing I guess it didn't even cross my mind what could possibly happen. It really was such a humiliating experience, and I guess the issue now is that my current boyfriend and I don't really often discuss sex...we just kinda do it whenever, you know? So maybe I will talk to him about this, and we'll see what happens.
Thanks!
Here's a good thread I posted a while back... It has recieved both positive feedback from first timers to anal sex as well as praise from the pros at it... Any way you look at it, anal sex is a very special and intimate act that is much trickier then vaginal sex... And therefore requires more education and preparation... I'm sure this thread and the links in it will be of some use to you
Ten Rules For Anal Sex
i havent had much experiance with anal, but i think it is logical to clean yourself before you do it. also the body wasent really designed for a penis to be inserted in that area(uh, if im wrong, dont hurt me, like i said, i have not had much experiance with this) so it may be difficult to control your bodily functions. if you dont want to do it, then just dont do it.
there are many great posts about anal in the golden posts section and as well as the "all about anal 101" or something, cant quote the name off the top of my head, but it is at the top of the page on a few message boards here