ahh god ok here it goes, This site is amazing for people who are worried and need info so kudos to all you guys / girls who help people.
Thing is i've recently turned 21 :) and i was a virgin thru choice which i was proud of!!
anyways i started dating my gf about 5 month ago and immediately fell in love with her
she's 18 ( and not a virgin ) this didnt bother me at all,
well one thing led to another and we started making out kissing and touching and she told me she had some condoms in her bag so i was so nervous and she was telling me it would be ok anyways it was a disaster !!!! i think i lasted about 30 seconds ( lol ) but i was so nervous and she was telling me it was ok it was ok.
Anyways months went by and we would keep trying but it was getting worse i was finding it hard to maintain an erection i could'nt last longer then 10 seconds sometimes, and i could tell it was affecting her i want to pleasure her
i really do it's affecting us badly after all this time, I've tried a few of the techniques to try and last longer but it's just not working I dont know if i should contact my local doctor about this
but it's killing me :( and her
any help or advice is greatly appreciated, also if at all possible i'll leave my msn messenger address so maybe we could talk one on one about it, i feel silly a 21 year old asking for advice like this! :(
* sorry about the grammar
Forget about feeling silly. Men and women of all ages and educational backgrounds participate in the Board.
> I've tried a few of the techniques to try and last longer but it's just not working I dont know if i should contact my local doctor about this
Please tell me what techniques you've tried. We will be better able to assist.
Your MSN address is unnecessary. Anyone who wants to contact another participant on the Board can do so internally.
I've tried starting and stopping and that grip technique, As for my msn it's just alot easier for me since i use msn at work alot
> I've tried starting and stopping and that grip technique
Hi,
Thank you for the additional information. Premature Ejaculation is the bane of nearly every young guy up to his mid-twenties or so. The reason we experience it with our partner and never by ourselves is because we are much more turned on when in the presence of our lover than when we masturbate. Your experiences fit the classic definition of PE in which a climax occurs within the first minute or so. If an orgasm happens after this period of time it is just unplanned and untimely; however, the cure for both is the same.
Brandye, our resident M.D., is fond of the "Squeeze" technique. It is great for the hear and now. I suggest that you and your partner practice a training exercise I recommend that will train you to recognize the sensations for a couple of benchmarks preceeding the trigger point of an orgasm in order to maintain control. You can read all about it as I have mentioned it time and again on the Board. Just do a search under my name for one or more of the following terms:
Premature Ejaculation
PE or P E
exercise
benchmark
If you have questions or concerns, please feel free to write me or post them.
Good luck!
Your problem is youre thinking about the sex, doing it right, and youre not living in the moment.
You have to be in the moment, not worrying about it. Don't think about getting an errection or having an orgasm, or anything else. Just enjoy it as much as you can. It'll get better, I promise.
I know where your girl is coming from as a willing participant in the relationship we accept and try to help you with your so-called short comings but really don't worry about it as you get more and more comfortable and you understand more about the whole process you will calm down. most males i've had problems with as far as premature ejactulation or trouble keeping an erection were just having major anxiety problems by thinking about they're performance at the time. It's well known amoung people nowadays that more experience means better technique so just practice practice practice!!
[FONT="Verdana">[COLOR="Blue">OK, I am dating this great guy. I have had 4 partners and he is a virgin. we have fooled around A LOT and he does good with not PE. I am kinda expecting PE to happen when we do start having sex. I am looking forward to sleeping with him and embracing whatever happens. Because no matter what I love him and PE wouldn't change that at all. I am willing to work through it with him. [/COLOR] My point being I expect it to happen because that's life. It just has to be worked through/out. Sex is something that gets better with practice. Sex is also more than just the act itself. I care more about us sharing ourselves, love, embrace, caring not just the act of it.[/FONT]