Ok..heres the deal, I'm not new to sex by any means in fact i think i know quiet a bit about it, I've had sex numerous times, with diffrent girls during my short lived life :-p I'm 18 years old and I have NEVER, ever..had this problem before. Well lets begin with my story....
Ok, i never thought i would ever want to settle down, but i decided i wanted to actually commit for once, i met this girl and I'm in love with her, and we have been having sex, but sometimes during sex i just don't last as long as i want to, sometimes if we go slow and take it easy i can last a good bit, but when she wants to go crazy (she has a hard time getting off not just with me with her ex's and such too) and she wants to move a bit faster and so on, i don't know i never experienced that with all the chics ive been with, haha this girl is crazy! but i love it, and i want to please her and make her happy, but i don't know WHAT to do, it seems like foreplay has become my enemy now because it just gets me to a climax faster when we have sex, I want to Last for like 45 mins like i used to, not like 5-10 mins like i am now, what the hell happened to me! Someone with Expertise in the field of sex gimmie a hand here yall ;), it will be greatly apperciated i promise!
-P.S. I dont use a condom very often, but it just makes me last maybe 2 mins longer, and i have checked this site throughly and looked online all over the place to increase my stamina but to no avail haha, someone help! thanks!
-P.S.S sorry for all these i just keep forgetting to add stuff, if i want help you guys and girls need to know EVERYTHING...umm...i smoke a lot of pot( i quit 3 days yes i didnt smoke on 4:20 be happy for me haha) i take Advane(lorzapam) if u dont know what that is its like Xanax, Aniexty meds but i dont take it like im supposed to :-/...ummm and my girl has a prob getting off to begin with so i really need some awesome advice something i can help myself with at home and ect. and beleive me I've tried EVERYTHING.
alright your getting a lecture from me. sorry cant NOT do it..lol
a. wear a freakin' condom. wtf is up w/people nowadays? i understand yall dont like them, or they feel weird, or they yall dont like the feeling--PERIOD! BUT. do me a favor--wear one--and you will greatly decrease the chances of getting some funky ass std or aids/hiv..
b. not every girl can get off during actual intercourse. myself for example--k im 22 3/4 (the 4th yeay me! lol)...had sex w/a few lotta guys..lol
and out of the few lotta guys i have only been able 2 actually orgasm DURING SEX 2 count them TWO times. 1 was w/my ex tony, and another was w/some dude when i was like 17 or 17 1/2. it usually has to be from ORAL sex, or using my trusty "SILVER BULLET" (gotta love the bullet). now it doesnt mean that you are doing anything wrong--it just means that shes like the vast majority of chicks out there that are usually unable 2 get off during sex..
c. nothing wrong w/4play. in fact--myself--i LOVE IT! woowee! can't get enough of it. i actually prefer it to sex (well depends on WHO i am getting freaky with).
d. dont be so intent on having at least 45 minutes of straight sex. like my friend Rob, sometimes when i am getting him off he cums in 10 minutes & sometimes it is 6 hours later (i kid you not 1 time--it was 12 hours. lol poor guy).
oh and try going to your doc and asking him if there are any SEXUAL side effects in regards to the medication you are on. i know that w/some anti depressants--it makes a guy unable 2 get his peter up..
lay off the weed--and have sex while you are medication free (if at all possible).
and use a condom--if you go to planned parent hood--they will give you a bag of 48 condoms..if ya dont like it then say hello to fatherhood! lol cause seriously condoms are very usefull in regards to not getting a chick preggo.
good luck.
mel
ha wallys like my mini helper thanks again for BOTH posts you helped me in im just a mess hahah
Sorry you haven't had more replies... I think part of the problem is sorting through the information you've provided... plus you say you've "tried everything" so...
I'm not sure it's related, but one thing I'd suggest is lay off the pot and get your medication straightened out! I'm a bit surprised some one hasn't given the "condom lecture," but it's also not clear if you're using some other form of birth control, which you should be.
5-10 minutes of intercourse before orgasm sounds about average for most guys. Could this be this simple? Do "other things" until she "wants to go crazy" and is close to the edge, then 5-10 minutes should do it for both of you? (If she requires penetration, use a vibrator.)
45 minutes of actual intercourse is not required to make a woman "happy." It sounds like there may be a problem with her getting off more so than you getting off prematurely?
If you've researched the board thoroughly for ideas to incrase your staying power, I'm not sure I can add much in the way of new ideas or techniques.