Hi my name is Cassie and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and we decided to have sex a couple days ago. Now, it was both our first time, so I knew it would be a little rocky the first time. But, it was nothing like I wanted it to turn out. We didnt so what sex positions to do, he had trouble putting on the condom, etc. So instead we changed it to Oral Sex instead of having intercourse. Can someone help me on how to have sex?!
Thu, 12/07/2006 - 20:57
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Problem With Me And Him Having Sex?!
Don't worry, just keep trying and it will come to you. Sex can be awkward at first, but instead of being embarrassed or frustrated just think of it as funny and special that you can share that learning together. Now, what exactly went wrong? He can practice putting a condom on a couple times before you try having sex again so that that isn't an issue. What do you mean about the positions?
Basically, any position where you two can fit together will work. My first time I was on top. I never thought I would be on top my first time, and before I had sex I always kinda wondered what you're supposed to do on top. But, in the moment, that's just how it turned out, and it was really fun. Not at all painful, just fun. That is probably a good way to start out if you are nervous about it hurting since you can be in total control.
Missionary is the other position that I would recommend for the novice. Pretty simple: he's on top. You'll want to help guide him into you, and he'll do the work from there. If he slips out, don't worry, just put it back inside and keep going. This still happens to me sometimes, so don't fret.
There are lots of positions you could try, but missionary and girl on top are good beginners. Save doggy style for when you're a little more experienced. Just remember to relax, have fun, and don't be too "serious" about it. Sex is supposed to be fun. It can also be pretty silly, especially at first. Work up to it with a lot of foreplay, be patient, and go slow.
Also, since you're going to start having sex, I would really recommend going to your doctor or local free health clinic and check out your birth control options, so that you don't have to constantly worry about being pregnant. In addition to the use of condoms, that is!
Good luck, and if you have any more questions, just ask!
Actually female superior is more advanced while from behind is good for beginners. The easiest is male superior (missionary). Condoms are eas but f the lady puts it on him it is better - since you can make an 'excitement' and you know he's got it on. Lubricant is also useful then just center his position and slide in.
hey i had a similar with my girl friend today, it was her and my first time as well, she was really wet but her pussy was really tight and i cudnt put it in far enough because it was so tight and also it started to really hurt her so we just went to oral sex...any suggestions why this happened or what i could do next time?