Um, first off i just want to say sorry for posting this topic because i know it has been posted before, i was just hoping to explain a little more.

Well, me and my gf decided to have sex for the first time the other day, and i thought to myself, heh how hard could it be? and i found out later on. After she got me erect, i went to put the condom on, and i did stay hard, however when i went to insert my penis into her vagina i couldn't find the opening. I tried using my fingers, and when i thought i found it, I couldn't seem to get it in. I fingered her trying to find the pathway, thinking that it may be at an angle, and that would be my problem, but i seemed to notice that there were two bones there, which were most likely why i couldn't really get in. I was just wondering if anyone could give me any specific advice? Oh and yes, we did have foreplay, and i am pretty sure she was wet... and i was erect. Later on we tried again, but i wasn't as erect. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated? Thanks very much.

ho hmm, firstly it raises the question of whether your g/f is a virgin, if she is then have either you or her ever stuck fingers in there before? if the area isnt used to things being pushed in, then it is unlikely to accept it first time. the best thing to do would be to try fingering her before you do anything, starting off by sliding your fingers in gently, if it takes one finger ok, then start thinking about wiggling that finger, like you would to make a hole in a balloon bigger, but very gently. Once you have done this you should be able to judge whether she will be able to accept the size of your penis, and you can make a decision from there. it sounds like this is both of your first times, and so just take it slowly, using your fingers to find the way, exploring with them as gently as possible, as your penis will be of a similar build to your fingers, except bigger.

good luck!

As corny as it sounds, ask her to help you. Sex isn't an act that you are engaging in yourself. Your girlfriend knows her body and can easily "point you in the right direction."

When my boyfriend and I first had sex he also had a little trouble. I just slid my hands down and helped him out. It was all good. We both enjoyed ourselves and having me help him didn't cause him to loose his confidence or anything, he wants sex 24/7 now instead.

This may help you find your way around (although, if I assume corectly that your girlfriend is a virgin, her vaginal opening will probably not be as, ah, noticeable as that of the woman depicted here.)
female diagrams

If you are that unfamiliar with her body, it does not sound like you are ready to have sex with this girl. You should explore each other's bodies in other ways for now.

Thanks a lot. I feel that i do know her body pretty well. I mean its not like i can't find it... because i do finger her. I just couldn't seem to be able to slide my penis into her vagina. It seemed like i was hitting a bone. Perhaps not enough foreplay was the key, and maybe next time I will have her guide me.

We also talked about it afterwards, which i found really good cuz i think being able to talk about it brought us closer. Thanks a lot for your help.

Sounds like a lubrication problem. Use lots and see how it goes.

Well man I would recommend lubrication like Brandye said and also more fourplay to get her wet. And if you need quick lube to help you get started, to enter her vagina, a little bit of saliva works too.

Hey,

When you say you can not completely insert your penis, how much of your penis can you stick in?

OK, I do nothave a penis so do not know exactly what you are feeling. I have felt it from the other side and patients have asked about the same thing.

When you insert a penis into a vagina, it rolls the labia inside. If there is good lubrication you continue to slide in. If not, then there is a drag that will pull the penis skin tight and it would feel like you hit bottom.

Even lubricated condoms are not always enough and dry latex condoms can really be a problem. Latex is quite abrasive at a microscopic level. The plastic condoms are not.

Often during "bare" intercourse, the penis does not slide right in. Rather, one has to back off a bit and then push again. This is drawing lubrication from inside up to where it is needed.

Use lubricated condoms and I always recommend an applicator full of vaginal jelly inside first. Safer and gives plenty of lube.

I wouldnt say that it is a lubrication problem but it is normal. I had this problem with my b/f. I havent had sex in a while before him so my vagina went back to virgin size. His penis is bigger than I am used to so it took a while to get his penis to where it fits. It took at least a couple of months. Its not a problem, its normal for some people, so dont get worried or anything, and when you hit a dead end, there is a point of the vagina where it stops, but you should be able to fit more then just your head in, so just keep on trying, be patient, and it'll work for the best.good luck