Hi everyone, I have read here for a while now but this is my first time posting. My girlfriend and I just had sex for the first time last weekend. We have been dating for 7 months and she and I were both virgins. It wasn't that great and found it difficult. The second time we tried and she cried because the pain was so bad. She said it wasn't from putting it in but she said it felt like I was hitting the back wall every time, ie her cervix. I'm only about 5 1/2 inches long, she's a small girl about 5'2" and 120lbs. I wouldn't think this would be a problem but I don't like the idea of not being able to go in all the way and I really don't like seeing her in pain. Could this be just a temporary problem? Thanks
Wed, 03/07/2007 - 14:44
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Problem having sex...
the vagina is only a few inches long.
The more foreplay.. the more aroused a woman is.. the more the vagina extends and expands.
Just try different positions.
I am usually ok in most positions but some that can do this are if its missionary but my legs are up over his shoulders...that penetration is usually tooo deep. Also, doggy can do this sometimes...I just have to adjust my height and hips (angle) to get it so that it doesn't hurt.
Spooning is a good position that shouldn't have too deep of a penetration.
Are you waiting until she is stimulated to a good point? Also, think about what positions you are trying, and try a different angle for penetration. If you are hitting the cervix it is uncomfortable but not painful to the point of crying. It sounds as if she is still very tense, try being a bit easier, and either have her on top of you so she can control what feels good or try missonary for a while, keeping her legs dowm and go easy and gentle. Sometimes stop for a bit and go back to oral or manual stimulation. See if that helps...