Hi, im 21 yrs old and just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few weeks ago. the problem however is that I (we?) have trouble getting his penis inside me. I know it could be due to stress and lack of forepay only i feel very comfortable with him and the foreplay is amazing. the first time we had sex took significant time and "effort" to get him inside me. it just somehow kept slipping out, and once penetration was achieved (with me on top of him) i felt (as did he) that somehow my insides were trying to push his penis out and the minute we started thrusting up and down, that was it out it went and impossible to get back in without strenuous effort!
i feel somehow that it is my fault and i dont know what to do or try (we have used lube) any ideas or suggestions would be welcome, i feel quite embarassed about this and therefore almost dread trying (and failing) again.
Thu, 05/01/2008 - 15:15
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problem having intercourse
[quote=banana rama;214725]Hi, im 21 yrs old and just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few weeks ago. the problem however is that I (we?) have trouble getting his penis inside me. I know it could be due to stress and lack of forepay only i feel very comfortable with him and the foreplay is amazing. the first time we had sex took significant time and "effort" to get him inside me. it just somehow kept slipping out, and once penetration was achieved (with me on top of him) i felt (as did he) that somehow my insides were trying to push his penis out and the minute we started thrusting up and down, that was it out it went and impossible to get back in without strenuous effort!
i feel somehow that it is my fault and i dont know what to do or try (we have used lube) any ideas or suggestions would be welcome, i feel quite embarassed about this and therefore almost dread trying (and failing) again.[/quote]
I replied to your other post--same topic.
ditto, same as sera.
For the benefit of those who may not be able to find your other topic - here are some points.
Your first time is never going to be perfect, and as you have noticed your pussy is trying to push out his penis. This will go with time. If the foreplay was amazing and you feel comfortable with him, then just relax, enjoy, and have fun with each other.
I would suggest getting him to finger you before sex. I happen to be a little on the large side down there and find that sometimes loosening her up with my finger(s) allows my penis much easier and smoother access, plus its not uncomfortable for her. The tongue can do the same job though you may not feel comfortable with that yet.
Feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss this further in a more private manner.