The first time I did a blowjob, I thought I had been poisoned! Warm, salty, bitter snot. Yuk. OK, that out of our system, I think that oral has got to be in any woman's bag of tricks. It seems to me (sorry guys) that male sex has got to be a real bore. Get it played with, it stands up, stick it in and soon it disgorges goo into us.

We women clearly have the more interesting sex life with the variety of orgasms most of us (thankfully) experience and our ability to thoroughly enjoy sex sometimes without an orgasm. Some of my most pleasant times I have not even wanted an orgasm; I just wanted the pleasure of a penis in me and bringing pleasure to whomever was attached to it.

We women also have a greater responsibility and challenge in keeping men happy and pleased and not wandering. Because all male orgasms are roughly the same thing, we have to make it happen in different ways. The varieties of ways we can do handjobs are endless. We should each master these. And oral is a basic skill we need to learn whether or not we ever like the taste or the consistency. I like neither but I like to give good head; the obvious pleasure given makes the taste worthwhile.

Try a variety of things. Bring him close and as he ejaculates, remove him and catch the ejaculate in a towel. Do it with a (dry) condom until you are comfortable with the mechanics of the whole thing. And, never be surprised! You should be able to read your partners actions to tell where he is. Doing a handjob (in good light) note how the head engorges and turns purple right before the explosion. Most importantly, when going down, rest your thumb on the bottom base of his penis right in front of the scrotum. When the ejaulate leaves the prostate you can feel it and you have only a split second to react. You can then remove your mouth and catch it by hand or protect your gag reflex. Press the back of your tongue against your hard palate. This will keep that first powerful spurt from hitting your gag reflex in the back of your throat. That is what actually gags us; we have all tasted worse stuff in our lives. The Norwegians even eat Lutefisk!

With my boyfriend he knows i dont like him to cum in my mouth. He just tells me when to stop. He says he doesnt need to come to feel good. If he loves you he will respect your wishes too.

Generally speaking there is really no need to take cum into your mouth if that affects you in negative manner. There is a specific difference when cumming in warm mouth and outside but most of the time we just really don't give a f*ck, pardon for the phrase, in the moment of cum. Just tell him to warn you when he's about to come and switch your mouth with something else and move the penis away from yourself. However, if you have a problem with the very cum, meaning that wherever he cums is a problem, just the very idea of it vomits you, you might consider closing eyes, using a glove so that you don't feel it, things like that. Shutting s specific sense can really help.

Brandye gives good information regarding this. It does take some time to get used to semen for some women and is something that just needs to be worked through. I had a girlfriend many years ago that slipped her hand down my pants when we were making out. It was the first time she had ever touched a penis and so she spent a lot of time playing with it. So much time that it made me cum. It was a total suprise for her and she had mixed thoughts. It was messy on her hand and was very surprising, on the other hand feeling it pulsate and squirt was very intriging for her. It was awhile before she would play with it again.

The fact you are willing to try and are concerned about this is good. Hopefully it will just take a little time to get used to semen and get over being uncomfortable with it. Like Brandye said, many times it is more fun to watch the other person enjoy sex than to actually orgasm. I love to give my wife oral because of what it does for her. I have come to the point where I just love the taste, texture, feel of her vulva when I give her oral. She doesn't always like giving oral to me, but likes to see the enjoyment it gives to me. She very seldom will let me cum in her mouth and that is fine with me. But every once in awhile she really wants me to cum in her mouth and then she will swallow it. For some reason there are times that she just wants the feel of cum in her mouth and she has a desire to swallow all of it. These times she is in complete control. I will warn her when she has got me to a point I know I'm about to cum and she can chose what she wants to do with it. She has pulled her mouth off and finished me with her hand, have me cum in her mouth and she will let it run out or swallow, and sometimes she wants me to shoot cum on her. Sex is messy and it becomes much more enjoyable once you get used to the fluids that happen from sex, both female and male.