Hello, I’ve actually delt with this question for the longest time and now have the guts to ask people about it. Being a male, all my other guy friends at school always talked about how wonderful it felt to orgasm. I tried and tried and tried and it just wasnt a success at all, nothing made me cum. I would jack off to the point where my penis would actually become a little inflamed.
Then, when I was around 14, I tried a new technique. I laid stomach first on my bed and slid my penis as if having intercourse and I came in no time. This is the method I have used ever since, and still can’t come when I use my hand unless I use the bed technique and plateau first.
It is very frustrating to me, being practically 18, and not being able to make myself orgasm like normal guys do. Also, my girlfriend always asks me if there is a problem because she can only get me to cum during intercourse and that seems odd to her. The stress of this just builds up more and more over time because I still masturbate the same way and can cum no problem, but it just doesn’t “feel” right. My hand just doesn’t pleasure me enough I guess, that seems abnormal. Im afraid that I could be causing tissue damage to my penis by having the weight of my body force my penis along my sheets.
If anyone has any words of advice, I would GREATLY appreciate it.
All any of us can do is to give you some ideas to try. My first is to learn a new technique, that of stroking your shaft in one of several ways that feel(s) good to you. Second, use a lube for two reasons; first, because it makes the nerves in the shaft more responsive; second, using a lube means you can use much less pressure, even stroking with the lightest touch. It also means that you can squeeze much harder without fear of chafing the skin.
I suggest reading the information on this site:
www.jackinworld.com
I consider it to be the preeminent knowledge bank regarding male masturbation.
As for your g/f not being able to get you to climax, the deal is--
* We do not give orgasms away, each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help each other have theirs.
* This is accomplished by guiding his/her hand several times over the course of a couple of weeks (depending upon how often you get together) until each of you learns the others technique.
* Feedback is also extremely important. We must give each other some verbal or non-verbal cues on how we are responding to their caresses and for what we need now/next.
So, with all this in mind, learn (retrain your brain) to respond to a different way of masturbating, then when you can do this reliably and consistently, guide her hand.