I didn't go to the gyno until I was 23, which was when I became sexually active.
I had never had troubles w/ my period such as irregularity or bad cramps... signs that suggest I might have a cyst or any other problem. I had never had a yeast infection either.
My periods were right on time, and quiet painless for the most part, no big deal.
I was definetly nervous and scared about going but when I started having sex, I knew I should be responsible and go get put on the pill.

Personally, Un... I think you are ok. If you choose to wait to have sex, then age 18-21 sounds good to me.
Especially if you aren't having any problems.
However, if you do start having sex, I would go and get checked out and maybe think about some form of BC or at least learn a lot about your options.

Sugar, I'm not trying to scare you in anyway, I'm sorry if that was the result. I just have a strong personal opinion about this subject. However, it is important to note that this is JUST an opinion. You don't have to listen to it if you dont want to.

That said this is the information told to me during sex-ed classes in highschool, as well as by my mom (who got the info from her gyno) when I was your age. I was told that no matter how old you are, if you are sexually active, it's a very good idea to be seeing a doctor. It's all about protecting yourself. I was also told that it was 18 (not 21) when you should begin to go, regardless of sexual history.

Like I said, this was the information that was given to me. If you feel that this is incorrect, by all means, follow your own info, but dont do it because you're scared to go now (its really not a big deal, I promise... Doc is in and out in under 5 minutes usually). I'm 20, and ALL of my freinds have been to the gyno, sexually active or not. But seriously, do what is right for you. Seek information on the internet or whatever. Do what ya gotta to ease your mind.

Again, I'm really sorry if I worried you, I really didnt mean to. Hoped this helped clarify things.

An ob/gyn is a gynocologist (not sure if I spelled that right).

It could be, but its probably just that the entrance to your vagina is still tight because you haven't had any sexual experience yet. Like I said before, just be patient and keep working at it and you'll get there eventually.

Now I dont know how old you are, but if you are sexually active in anyway you should be seeing a ob/gyn (period). If your really worried about it, at your next check up talk to him/ or her about it. If the doctor beleives that you are unusually tight there is a very minor procedure (in office, I beleive) that they can do.

But again, if you're really young (not saying that you are or not, just in case you are) this is not somthing you should really be worry about right now. If you wanna do somthing with your boyfreind but are still having a problem with finger insertion, just tell him to be careful and that your tight and have him touch you (with no insertion) and play with your clit. He doesnt need to penetrate you with a finger to please you, you'll most likely get the most pleasure from him playing with you clit anyway.

Hope this helped.

Here I found that link to the page of actual hymen.
Warning, real pic not just illustrations.
Hope this gives you a better idea.

This relates to your problem. I use to be really tight; to the point that I use to seriously worry that when I wanted to have sex I would be too narrow and pain would be a major problem. I could barely insert one finger, let alone the two I thought (at the time) most people could. I think I even posted on here once. Brandye very considerately told me that it was most likely just my anxiety making me worry and that the vagina has amazing capabilities to stretch (if it can stretch to fit a baby, a finger is not going to be a problem).  Listen to the other posts; take it slow, use lots of lube, go gradually and do only as much as your comfortable with, keep working at it and eventually you'll stretch. I'm still a virgin and I can fit two fingers now very easily. It just takes time.

And in regard to the hymen, I'm not exactly sure where it is in the vagina (I'd listen to the other posts on this one), but I do know that these days alot of girls who are still virgins have already lost their hymen (or stretched it, etc), so it is entirely possible that you may not have yours anymore (its just as possible that you do though). Generally speaking, as a gender, we are alot more active than we use to be and this can be a result. Anything can cause it to happen; from playing sports, gymnastics, heavy horseback riding, bicycling, all that. I'm almost positive that mines gone, and to be honest, I really have no idea when I lost it.

I know this wasn't EXACTLY your question, but I thought it was basically relevant and I hope it may have helped in some small way. Lots o'luck!

The hymen is located right at the entrance of the vagina. There used to be a pic somewhere here on the board.
Anyways, enough lube is a big factor and so is nervousness. If you are tensed up, nothing is getting in there...lol.
Have you ever used tampons? Im guessing probably not.

Also, if you aren't ready... then don't do it! Don't let your b/f do something to you that you aren't TOTALLY comfortable with. Of course its normal to have some nervousness the first time you do anything sexual or otherwise... but when you are ready.. you'll know
good luck.

It does sound like you might be a little nervous. Just relax. There's no need to pressure yourself. Are you getting wet? If you're not wet enough that could be the problem. Try using some lube and that might help you ease your finger in a little better.

Get a mirror and use it to look at your genital area while you're exploring your body. That way you can see really what you're doing and you get a better idea of your body. And take baby steps. Just start with putting a little of your finger inside you, whatever your comfortable with. Get used to that and then maybe put a little more and a little more and eventually this is be a lot easier for you.

doesnt hurt to get checked out every now and then- for peace of mind if nothing else!

If you are sexually active in anyway (regardless of age), seeing a gyno is a nessisty and non-negotiable. You should go at least once a year, plus when ever you feel you have a problem or a question.

Also, even if your not sexually active, you may want to go, as secretly said, just for your peace of mind. Cervical cancer is a growing problem in the world, as is (as we all know) breast cancer, and  cases of these illnesses are happening in YOUNG women more and more every year. General tests during your appointment will check for cervical cancer and your doctor will probably give you a quick clinical breast exam (mine does). Now, going before your sexually active at your age isn't TOTALLY nessisary, but once your period starts, it's a good idea. However, once you turn 18, its a general rule that you should start going regularly (sexually active or not).

OKAY! In regard to your age. If you are sexually active and ready to head to a doctor, but your parents disagree (be they narrow minded or uninformed), or you dont want to involved them (my freind had this problem), I *beleive* that you can head to a planned parenthood (yes/no, anybody know for sure?) for an exam.