Call me dumb and hormonal but I think Bf has lost intrest in me because I am starting to get big. We are very inventive as in postions but lately he has been telling me he's too tried or what not.... Is it because I am preggo and that I am getting big? All I want to do is please him.... what am I doing wrong???
Thu, 11/27/2003 - 00:50
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Preggo and sex....
My husband and I continued having sex until I just couldn't do it anymore due to the HUGE baby in me! (he was 9lbs 3oz at birth). The last month... we couldn't really do anything.. but he sure wanted too.... I couldn't even give him oral sex because I got heartburn so bad!! But, up until the last month, we shared a healthy sex life... even when I was pretty big, even though it was hard to find a comfortable position during the last trimester...
Anyways... maybe he's not lying to you.. maybe he's really just tired. Or, I have heard that some guys are just really nervous about having sex with a pregnant woman.. because they're just not sure if it's safe for her & the baby..... etc etc.. Maybe he's one of those guys and you need to make him know very well that your doctor says it's still OK to have sex! I also thought I'd mention that maybe he's kinda stressed about becoming a father or if yall already have kids maybe he's stressed about how the new baby will affect your family dynamic and finances, etc. Stress could majorly affect his sex drive.
**edit** well geez, I didn't realize the posts on this board were so old. My bad... anyways, maybe it'll help somebody else having the same problem.
I think it may be the concern for you and the baby. While My spouse and I are known for engaging in fairly kinky sex when I'm not pregnant, as soon as we find out I am, he treats Me like fine china. The best advice I can give is to talk to your obgyn, both of you, and let him here first hand what is acceptable and safe during pregnancy and what is not. Secondly, communication is always important, but especially during pregnancy and sex. Make sure he knows when you're enjoying it and when you're not. Lastly, tantric sex and some kama sutra positions meant for intimacy rather then orgasm are excellant for the later months of pregnancy. It allows both of you to be closer without the dicomfort that can come from harder sex.
K and I have taken the later months of pregnancy as a great time to explore more interesting positions, that stimulate personal intimacy and connection and then resort to our most favorite position to finish up. (currently doggy for those interested) Whatever you try, take it slow and communicate.
Well, there's really no sense in me offering opinions about mommie2two's loser (oops boyfriend) because she couldn't possibly still be pregnant after all this time. However, I love the way pregnant women look. The two times my wife was pregnant she was HOT, I was not the least bit turned off by her. If you don't like the way your woman looks after you get her pregnant, maybe you should have been more careful before she was pregnant.
Unless you weren't the one who knocked her up. Then you have the right to be upset.
There are all kinds of theories about why some guys get turned off by a woman when she's pregnant.. the same for why some guys go crazy over pregnant women.
The easiest thing would be to talk to him about it.
I am five and a half months, I am huge now I'd say about the size of some one in their 8th month. But of course I make big babies... I think he isn't into me anymore...
Or he might be just afraid to hurt you and your baby.
i guess its all in personal preference
i know ive read on her some guys find pregnant women sexy.
i suggest asking you b/f why he's lost interest and what you and him can do to spice things up.
by the way, how far along are you?