Hi every one
I was just wondering what can i do. Well my girlfriend and I still havent had sex .. i have she hasnt .. but i am concernd with my pre cum becuse when i finger her and then eat her out i get horny(normal) but then some precum comes out and then thats when my G/F will usally start to give me a hand job and some more comes out ... i can feel it but i dont think she notices and it drys up very quick.. my question is what can i do becuse after this happens and she gos to give me oral she will do it for like 20 seconds most then stop ... i think it is becuse she smell it or taste it and it seems werid and unclean or w/e...
What can i do to help me with my precum?\
Sorry if i am not to understanding ..
Thanks to all you Guys/Girls that can help me
Ok well i talked to her about and its not that she didnt like it she said she loved it and wants to do it more but that she wasnt sure if she was doing it right.. and was unsure and didnt want to hurt me....
ok thanks.... yea my g/f seems like the type that even if im hurting her she wont admit it so ill look at her and her gestures
Everyone seems to have covered the subject pretty well here. The only thing I can add is, if there is a problem with the taste of precum, or she just doesn't like it, then the idea of flavored lubes is good. But you can also use a lot of other stuff. Any flavor jelly that she likes, chocolate syrup, or an oldie but a goodie, whipped cream. These work just as well and are somewhat easier and less embarrassing to come by- especially for young people.
yea i agree with demon.
if she tells you to stop next time, ask her if everything's ok or if you're hurting her.
like when me and my guy first had sex. he was my first and he knew that. and he always told me that if it hurt, to tell him, so he could stop, cause he didn't want to hurt me in any way. and you know, it hurt a lot my first time. and i told him to keep going because i knew that i was just basically going to have to suffer for a while till it got better. but he saw that it was hurting me even if i wasn't speaking up about it, so he stopped for a while and we tried something else.
so yea, just sorta ask her. and tell her that you don't want to hurt her so if it's hurting her, you'll stop.
As far as i no and that shes told me shes never had an orgasam and that was my first time giving her oral..maybe she didnt want me down there since she was wet and thought i wouldnt like it ....
who knows ill bring it up next time.
maybe it was starting to get too intense and she was afraid of orgasming some girls are.
have you given her an orgasm or has she given herself one?
next time if she does it again be like... are you ok? am i hurting you?
then she's more likely to say yes it hurts or to open up about the real reason.
i know its kind of hard to bring up past issues by saying remember the other night?
so if y ou are concerned ask her when it happens.
Ohhh ok thank you guys/girls so much ..
I wasnt sure but yea shes prolly not sure if shes doing it right next time shes giving me oral ill tell her when it feels good and to keep doing it like that Ect...
Also i was giving her oral and fingering at the same time then just fingering ect and i was just starting to get "into" it and then she said stop i respected her and did so.. but was i doing something wrong that she said stop .. it seemed like she was getting into it..
i guess i turned her on alot becuse before i fingered her she was super wet and it felt so good.
and then when i was giving her oral i just wanted to give her more ...
yeah just talk to her and encourage her. make her feel comfortable.
the first couple times i gave my b/f oral i was real nervous if i was doing it right etc.
also, i was hesistant to do it for an extended period of time b/c i was nervous about what to do when he came. if it would go in my mouth what it would taste like.
just give her time, she'll get over her fear.
as long as you are patient w/ her she'll be ok.
oh and like thetease said i don't think theres anything you can really do to prevent precum... it just happens.
it would be like trying to keep a girl from getting wet when she is aroused. theres no way to control it ... it just happens.
maybe you could get some flavored lube. she could use it when she's giving you a handjob to enhance that feeling and if she decides to give you oral the flavor will mask the precum.
Ohhhh i see
Yea i didnt mention anything about the precum becuse i just thought of it today and havent spoken with her.Yea i did tell her things to encourage her i told her i liked it when she did it and that it felt really good.And about demanding it i would never that just seems like being an A$shole.
How could i ask her about it?
Just ask her if she taste anything or smell anything?
Maybe its not that she tasted anything or smelt anything.... It was her first time giving oral and maybe notsure if she was doing it right?
Any suggestions on the precum.
um, i don't really think you can control your precum.
some guys have a lot of precum. some guys don't have any.
but the problem may not be the precum at all.
she may not feel comfortable giving you head. or she may feel that she is doing it wrong.
encourage her to continue (whatever you do, don't demand it. that just makes it degrading) and see if she does.
and if you really think it's the precum or taste or something, ask her. i know it may seem hard, but if you're uncertain, there's only one way you're gonna find out the answer.