Me and my girlfriend had sex today for about 4 hours and everytime she came close to an orgasm she would pull away or stop. She said that it was too sensitive and it almost hurt becuase of how good it felt,she said that she had about 5 yesterday while i was finguring her but today she just told me to stop everytime she came close, i tried everything,oral,fingering,a combination of both and then during sex,she came very close everytime but she couldn't take it,can anyone please help me with this problem.
Sun, 04/30/2006 - 02:34
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Pre-Orgasm Problems..pelase help
It's not your problem...it really isn't a problem...it is a situation that she feels uncomfortable and until SHE is ready, there is NOTHING you can do about it!!..it's her body and feelings..let her experiences happen as she feels fit..just respect her concerns..it'll happen when it happens...:)
That is all well and good, although, there just might be something else going on.
Often and with regularity, the clitoris becomes too sensitive to touch, directly.
When this happens it is not unlike the "pain" we guys experience after climaxing when in the company of our lover.
The fix is to stimulate the clitoris indirectly through the inner labia, the environs (meaning the lips and around the area), and, the shaft of the clitoris.
The clitoris can be rubbed by folding the inner labia over it and massaging through them. The labia can also be massaged and tugged upon and this will involve the clitoris indirectly. The shaft of the clitoris is all too often ignored. Why, when it is just as important to her as the shaft of our penis is to us.
Try these approaches and see if it doesn't help.
any more advice i could get,thanks for the help finally also!
I don't have any ideas to "improve the situation" ... just my own perspective -- that, for me, I'd always been preorgasmic & when I finally started having orgasms it was kind of frightening ... sooooooooo much pleasure was really overwhelming -- the only thing that helped was for my partner to be patient & communicate with me, ask me what I wanted/needed, etc.
When a partner asks you to STOP...I'd figure that the request would be granted or considered, but I guess that's NOT the right answer in this situation...go ahead a do whatever YOU think is best for your partner...we'll just agree to disagree with this one... :)
I experience the same thing. Once I'm very aroused I cannot take direct stimulation to the clitoris. It really does hurt. Not hurt but so sensitive that I cannot stand it. Once I've reached that point I then go to indirect stimulation. Folding the skin around it or stimulating the shaft of it. I like to then hold the shaft between two fingers and run alternating fingers. (when one finger is up the other is down)
My husband use to mistake the sensitivity as my trying to pull back from the intinsity of the orgasm itself, But that was not the case. It's really too sensitive at that point
I do the same thing to my boyfriend...and so does my best friend (yea we do talk about that stuff). Neither of us are really sure why...maybe its just a sycollogical thing (no idea how to spell that).