i started masturbating when i was 9ish....i dont have PE...

i wish you good luck dude...thats gotta suck :(

Whyn not consult your Doctor? Might be embarrasing to, but they've heard it all before. I'm sure they'll point you in the right direction :p

i had a question bout this too im 16(still virgin) but when i masturbte i can get it off within 1-2 minutes if i want. i kinda figured it wouldnt happen that fast during actual intercorse because i doubt i can go in an out of a girl as fast as i can move my hand lol if i go slower i can last a ton longer than if im just trying to "rub one out" is this considered PE?

OK, premature ejaculation is very common. Especially among younger men. The answer is different for younger men and older men. It also depends upon cooperation of your partner.

As a teen, I always jacked my partner off during foreplay. Slowed him down and often made him last longer. If not, young men can just keep on. So, one orgasm does not end it; there is lots more available.

As men age and this "problem" continues, use a search engine and put in "squeeze technique." This does require your partner' s cooperation and she should be on top. It works.

BTW, I prefer and early ejaculator to one who lasts too long. Assuming he has brought me off, I can "help" as long and as often as he wants.

I'm going to offer that it is probably 90% mental...something mentally is the root cause...like the excitement?? or perhaps you feel naughty?? :) ....not comfortable?? hard to believe that us guys could be so influenced by the where,what,who,when and how when it comes to it affecting our sexual performance,,,but for some, unless you are in a "happy place" or a "warm place to land" you might run into the PE problem...

Premature Ejaculation vists nearly every young man up through his mid twenties. For the rest of us, it can pay a temporary and transitory visit anytime thoroughout our life. Even though we are susceptible to it the condition usually does not bother us until we enter into a relationship with someone.**

The cause is simply our inability to recognize and then associate those sensations that happen immediately prior to having an orgasm, and, those feelings that are associated with some benchmark along our climb up the arousal curve when we still have the ability to maintain control of our climax and not coast beyond if all stimulation is stopped.

** The reason it does not really manifest itself when we masturbate is two-fold; first, because we do not become as highly aroused when by ourselves; second, we have the ability to self-regulate the stimulation we generate better than if someone else is providing the stimulus.

P E is a problem that happens most often when our partner is the initiator of some activity; or, when we become extremely aoursed and then any little extra friction takes us beyond the point of no control such as:
* when we are at the brink of an orgasm and any little movement of the penis then stimulates deepseated nerves within the root structure
* when we begin entering the vagina
* during the initial inward stroke
* during the initial outward stroke
or during one of the next couple of strokes

P E happens during the first minute or so of intercourse. If it happens several minutes later, it is not P E; rather, an unplanned and ill timed event. Regardless, there are two ways to handle the problem. Brandye recommends the "Squeeze" technique that is great for the hear and now. I recommend a training exercise that you and your girlfriend can practice that will train you how to gain mastery over your orgasms by learning to associate those sensations the happen immediately prior to a climax and when you can still maintain control. You can learn about the squeeze by doing a search of this site or the internet using GOOGLE and the term "squeeze technique". The nice thing about this method is that it can be used anytime a guy senses an impending climax and wants to abort it temporarily. Here is the information, again, on the exercise as copied from an earlier post.
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The exercise I regularly recommend is for the two of you to get together when you are not planning to get romantic and when you can devote a half hour to it each time. The purpose of the exercise is to train you to recognize (consciously) when you are about to climax yet can still stop it from happening; and, when you have reached the point of no return. These two benchmarks have specific sensations associated with them that you need to learn to recognize. When you can, then you can achieve control over your orgasms. Once you can recognize and identify both benchmarks, the next task is to see how close you can move the first one to the second (trigger point of your orgasm). This just takes practice as well as a conscious effort on the guy's part instead of just becoming lost in the emotion and feel good sensations and either not stopping when you know you should, or, simply not recognizing when you need to put a temporary hault on the proceedings.

The exercise requires that you both participate. The reason why you cannot master the technique by yourself is because of your internal feedback. When we masturbate we modulate our movements and make tiny midcourse corrections along the way based upon what we feel--or not. So, feedback is preventing us from ejaculating or climaxing prematurely. When we turn the job of stimulating ourselves over to our partner, we loose the ability to govern what happens through internal feedback. In order to counter this, we must give each other verbal or non-verbal feedback. Verbal cues can be a word or utterence; non-verbal feedback can be a squeeze of the hand or other gestures that we work out to convey specific meanings like how we are responding to our partner and for what we may need--now.

With respect to PE, it means that we have to learn to "wake up" from our utter state of bliss and make a conscious decision to have her stop the stimulation of our penis when we recognize that we are getting close and then convey this need to her. What's happening now is that you are in such a state of euphoria that you do not recognize the sensations associated with an approaching climax. The purpose of the exercise is to get you to make a conscious decision to wake up when you recognize that an orgasm is about to happen and to either tell her or indicate that you need her to immediately stop all movements! Her obligation at this point in time is to absolutely, positively, immediately stop because even the slightest motion of the penis will often be enough to take you past the point of no return.

In the early stages of your training, you need to stop her pretty early and way before you know an orgasm is going to happen. As you gain experience and confidence, then she should begin moving this benchmark closer to the point of your orgasm. Eventually, and with practice and awareness, you will be able to place the two pretty much side by side which intensifies your pleasure while giving you complete control over your climax.

Now, having said that, the two of you should take the exercises seriously yet recognizing that mistakes will happen and not to get upset that you have an unplanned climax. This is to be expected and will not happen as you gain experience. So, just laugh them off and try again, later.

Find some time when you know you will not be disturbed for a half hour or so and then relax in a chair or recline on a bed and let her stroke your penis. DO NOT use oral stimulation because the intensity of the stimulation will just complicate matters in the early stages.

After building his level of arousal, pausing, and then rebuilding it again a time or two, finish each exercise session by letting him enjoy a climax. Do not leave him hanging lest he acquire a good case of Blue Balls. I also understand that you may not be able to find some separate alone time exclusively for the exercise, so, if you do have to combine them when you plan to get romantic and fool around, then you can, although doing so may add needless stress and distraction thus complicating the process. So do it this way only if you have no choice.

Feel free to combine the Squeeze Technique with the exercise if you need extra help preventing an orgasm from happening. The squeeze works anytime and does not require any training other than just learning how to apply it. So, you now have two ways to gain and maintain control.

Good luck. Got questions?

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you say premature ejaculation happens just before climax.... i thought it could happen before....even just by getting excited (not at the brink of climaxing). My bf always 'spits out' some cum practically as soon as i touch him or he gets excited. I never encountered this with other guys (not that there were many to compare to). He says its normal however this stops me from going down on him coz the second i'd try lick or sthing i'd have to taste it (and i dont spit or swallow so this makes me feel sick!) i didnt use to have this problem with other guys and had no problem going down on them and stopping only just before they cum.

i feel guilty for not being able to do this with him but the pre-cum really grouses me out and makes me gag. Is there anything we can do to solve this...or perhaps delay/stop the pre-cum?

thanks

by the way i've tried flavoured condoms but he said he doesnt really feel much with the condom on!

for youngsters it is comon to have a fast reaction. I could ejaculate in 5-10 seconds when I first started masterbating at 14/15 but the I did not feel must while pumping away and so the orgasm of ejaculation was everything but in getting older and being less "tender" and able to enjoy the stimulating I last longer and enjoy getting there as well as blasting.

> i started masturbating when i was 9ish....i dont have PE...

WRONG. You will not necessarily learn whether you do or do not suffer from the malady until you loose your virginity, Champloo, and begin having intercourse.

Preadolescent erections and orgasms are vastly different than post pubescent ones.

yea there not as good hehe

I am telling you guys, Those "climax control conmdoms" are the best way to go

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2]> i started masturbating when i was 9ish....i dont have PE...

WRONG. You will not necessarily learn whether you do or do not suffer from the malady until you loose your virginity, Champloo, and begin having intercourse.

Preadolescent erections and orgasms are vastly different than post pubescent ones.[/QUOTE]

i stand corrected.
[QUOTE= doc]WRONG.[/QUOTE]

yeh yeh, i know. dont forget im 14. kinda tells me i need to zip my lip a bit. kinda why i havent been on as much in the past few days too...

> i know. dont forget im 14. kinda tells me i need to zip my lip a bit. kinda why i havent been on as much in the past few days too...

Well, Champ, I am now having a love hate relationship with you. You write well and sometimes your replies can be insightful; on the other hand, some are incorrect. At least one was very insensitive and inconsiderate.

You have gone from an average of 15+ posts per day to just under 11. To me that sounds like you enjoy being heard, right, wrong, or indifferent. I agree with your self analysis, you should zip it for awhile, learn, and if you cannot say anything nice, worthwhile, accurate, then forever hold your tongue--er, keyboard. Cutesy quips and the passing along of irroneous information can cause more harm than good. There is a rule in carpentry that says "measure twice before cutting once". I suggest that you think twice, research twice, before typing once. Posting once, twice, or thrice a day is about average for most of us.

I have the web address for a good board designed expressly for teens if you want it. The content is not unlike this site; however, the format and dialog are different and geared more for the mindset of younger minds. You are welcome here, although I wonder if Brandye's latest advisories might not be warnings directed toward you and other youngsters on a long leash.

Has anyone ever actually fixed their PE problem?

I've tried the exercises, pills and creams and haven't gotten anywhere.

I'm 30 so this is not a new problem, or a one time thing.

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There is NO easy "fix" to this PE problem:( ...IMHO..especially if you have been battling it for many years..I totally feel for you pal and I've been there and done that...:cool: ...I am of the opinion that PE is 99% mental...psychologically speaking...very many layers of subconscious detractors..I always blamed myself for the problem..it was damn frustrating..and at times it felt humiliating...there could be deep religious thoughts,there could be something deep in your subconscious that sex was kinda taboo even though you are totally open to most sexual situations,TOTAL FEAR OF PREGNANCY,could also be a trust thing...I was always "better" if I had a couple drinks...I was relaxed..but if I didn't have any..I'd be a disaster and always apologetic...in saying that...my ex-wife for the most part 90% of time did orgasm...I was always DEATHLY AFRAID of getting a female pregnant...even if I had a condom on or not..that said..her being on the pill...I couldn't trust that she would take the pill as DILIGENTLY as you are supposed to...12 yrs into our marriage she didn't take the pill as prescribed and didn't bother informing me...I always had boxes of condoms on hand...a pregnancy occured and all hell broke loose(we had 3 children at that time)...it ended up in a miscarriage...many health related circumstances on her part probably led to this...and those health problems are what caused her NOT to be diligent with the pill...lots of nauseau(sp) might have caused her to throw up the pill,but we were not sure....that led to another 13 yrs of barely any sex...i couldn't TRUST that this situation would ever happen again...even if I had a condom on...I just couldn't get over it...more things happened to her mentally and we separated and divorced....After 25yrs of marriage...I met a totally grounded, mentally sane person that had been divorced for 12 yrs...not dating at all due to bringing up her kids and not wanting any baggage for the kids...we are darn near this so called "soulmates" thing...we do the same sports (at the same level) and we share the same philosophical principles...the sex???...is absolutely unbelievable!!!...I have never never never EVER EVER had PE with my lil buddy!!...I really really truly feel LOVE and I'll tell you...it's nothing like what you feel when you are 18,20,30...this is something totally different...I can't even explain it....My ex did NOT ever b_i_t_c_h to me about my PE(while in marriage therapy she told the therapist she always had orgasms)..there is NO CHANCE that my LOVE can get pregnant...she had a test done by her doctor,,I forget the medical term...it starts with an F...and she was menopasual...do the math..we are in our late 40's...so what i'm saying is that something is happening to you "within the depths"...you are young at 30..get some professional help...psychiatrist or psychologist(that specializes in sex)...if you have a long time partner..I tried everything you said..I've tried the squeeze thing...NOTHING and I mean NOTHING worked...sometimes we need to get a tune up..just like your car does...don't be embarrassed...don't be afraid...we aren't perfect..we need help at times...people are out there that are trained to help us...I hope you find what the niggly is...that is affecting your mojo...

Seeking medical attention is an excellent idea. The 'squeeze techinque' is also an excellent idea. Tantric sex training is another.

The final 'trick' is to not worry about it. You orgasm fast and easily. Now do you recover quickly? If so - fine. Just stay inside or whereever you are and let the stilmulation continue until you are hard again then continue on - repeating as necessary.

If not, then you need to develop additional sexual skills such as cunnilingus and fingering, the use of toys, and other outercourse techniques. Once you have recovered, get back to it.

There is another method that would help but you are too young for that one.