Get some tissue ready :)

"Uncomfortable" really isn't a good excuse...

Otherwise, if he cums inside you... it'll continue to "leak" for a bit...especially when you stand up. Afterwards, I usually end up putting on a pantyliner.

I prefer for it to go on my stomach/boobs... easier cleanup and its nice too.

He's using the wrong size condoms then. Experiment, which could be fun, with a variety of sizes and brands to find his perfect fit. You grab three of each and then get him erect using whatever method you choose, and slip one on for size - continue until you find the right one for him. Or you go online and get the handy measuring device, get him erect, measure, and then special order the condoms online which is what one of my men has to do.

Do NOT let him EVER have sex without a condom. If he doesn't have/use then he doesn't get. Sorry, Charlie.

We take showers together afterwards.

I am with Evil. Every one of us (women here, that is) has gone through the sob stories of condoms are uncomfortable and reduce the sensitivity and on and on. If he wants some, he plays by your rules. It is your body that gets pregnant, not his.

At some point, the relationship changes but it should bot change because he wants to feel more like a man; it should change because your mutual caring and sexual exclusivity moves it on.

The "mess" amounts to a tablespoonful of semen. half of that will be absorbed through your vaginal walls and the other half will drain out. No big deal.

Use a towel, towels are always the best. Or a t shirt.
Dont use tissues, it rips up & sticks to your genitals.

[QUOTE=Brandye;165049]

At some point, the relationship changes but it should bot change because he wants to feel more like a man; it should change because your mutual caring and sexual exclusivity moves it on.

The "mess" amounts to a tablespoonful of semen. half of that will be absorbed through your vaginal walls and the other half will drain out. No big deal.[/QUOTE]

Who said anything about him wanting to feel like a man?

Tablespoon?! Are you kidding!? Have you been with too many old men?
I can certainly say i cum a shed load more than a tablespoon. Tell your man to eat right.

This is gonna back kinda stupid but I need to ask....A friend and I have been talking and getting to know each other after a 12 year absence and we slept together and we didn't use a condom! Now I have finished my period two days b4 this happened. We had protection but didn't use...I know I know...stupid thing! How can I tell if he actually cummed inside of me? PLEASE help

[QUOTE=Sirene;165088]Use a towel, towels are always the best. Or a t shirt.
Dont use tissues, it rips up & sticks to your genitals.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I go with a towel. We both use it.
Far as the condom deal, if you are both monogamous and disease free, why not go for some other form of birth control? I don't care what the ladies say, I never liked them either plus they aren't 100% reliable as birth control. You see posts on here all the time about them breaking. Had it happen to me when I was a youngster and I sweated bullets for a month.
BTW, Sirene, watch the cracks about old men buddy!;) :D

You may really care about this guy, but really think about the possible consequences before you even consider letting him stick it to you without any sort of protection. Condoms have some of the best rates out there, and they do come in different sizes and thicknesses, so experiment before you give up completely.

And if you ARE going to quit using them, get a diaphragm or a cervical cap instead (you get measured by your gyno, then order it) and keep a towel handy for afterwards.

Remember to take a step back if he's not willing to wait or to experiment with other barrier methods. You have to question his motives if he's not willing to try other things.

Sirene, Brandye's a doctor and 10cc is the average amount of ejaculate per male. And how many men have YOU been with that you'd be qualified to argue with the facts?

I havent been with any men, but i do watch a lot of amateur porn... & when they cover the girls face is spangle it's a lot more than a tablespoon. I release a lot more than a table spoon as well.

[QUOTE=Brandye;165049]Every one of us (women here, that is) has gone through the sob stories of condoms are uncomfortable and reduce the sensitivity and on and on.[/QUOTE]

Well, maybe some guys use it as a sob story, but its true. Condoms are uncomfortable and they do reduce sensitivity. Personally, I hate the damn things, and I wish someone would invent something better (although I don't know what that might be). Having said that though, I use one every time, for all the obvious reasons - but the damn things are a nuisance nonetheless.

So are children, cycle, so are children.

Most of the tables in metric measure say the normal ejaculate is between 1.5 and 6 centilitres. Let sirene enjoy his flicks and do not tell him.

It only appears that way Sirene.
that is where the rock group 10cc got their name from btw

Sorta like a car leaking oil. A few dips on the garage floor and it spreads out to appear like it's leaking buckets.

well sirene is childish anyway don't bother too much about his rants he hasn't realized yet that even "amateur" porn is faked up just like all the rest

condoms must be used there are plenty of types out there and if he wants to just go without then dump him you should at least start looking into other birth control methods and make sure your both std free thats the other benefit of condoms that no other protection offers, and fùck the pope for outlawing them

[QUOTE=Newtolove;165321]well sirene is childish anyway don't bother too much about his rants he hasn't realized yet that even "amateur" porn is faked up just like all the rest

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Amateur porn is filmed at home, using a webcam or a simple camera. There are no tricks to make it look like there's more man fat. That's what amateur porn is about!!

Obviously you have no idea.

oh yes I have plenty of idea that idiots will beleive anything if it gets them off a bit better, does that stuff come with "amateur waranty" ? how do you know it's not faked ? were you there when it was filmed ? also it is not said that those are average people.... wake up man grow up

Ok at the bottom is a cut and paste straight from this site.

Believe or not I was the one who had to convince my wife, it was only 5 ml or less; she felt during cleanup it was more. So finally to end the debate, I said we would meaure it. At first I asked, maybe a oral collection? But she knew her saliva would throw off the volume...darn!! So then she offered to HJ me into a cup. OK I reluctantly volunteered :) . (She has silky hands, so it wasn't a problem). This was tough!!! but I did it in the name of science!!:p

Sure enough, 3 to 4 mls. I think the viscosity of it, and the increased surface tension, makes ejaculate seem like more volume than it really is.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_maleejaculation.shtml

There are a surprising 20 million sperm/ml of seminal fluid, and average ejaculation consists of 1.5-5ml. Semen contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid, fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin B12, and zinc -- but all in very modest quantities. Some of this is designed to nourish the semen enroute, while other ingredients are designed to neutralize the acidic environment of the vagina (which would normally be inhospitable to sperm). In case you are wondering, most of these ingredients are indeed very healthy, and an average ejaculation contains only about 15 calories.

wouldnt the vag juices also contribute to the leakage? and sirene why do you speak before you think

[QUOTE=Newtolove;165324]oh yes I have plenty of idea that idiots will beleive anything if it gets them off a bit better, does that stuff come with "amateur waranty" ? how do you know it's not faked ? were you there when it was filmed ? also it is not said that those are average people.... wake up man grow up[/QUOTE]

What kind of tool are you? It's amateur because it's on an amateur site with real amateurs, you can tell by the quality & the settings. Its just a couple with a camera having sex & being mucky!

Get a life

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;165193]It only appears that way Sirene.
that is where the rock group 10cc got their name from btw[/QUOTE]

I didn't know that!

We've used baby wipes and that works pretty well. Sometimes we can get pretty messy with lube and stuff. This may sound strange but now we keep a crockpot with warm soapy water and a few hand towels by the bed, set on warm it works great and keeps the momentum going better than getting up and going to the bathroom for a moist warm towel.

[QUOTE=Sirene;165353]What kind of tool are you? It's amateur because it's on an amateur site with real amateurs, you can tell by the quality & the settings. Its just a couple with a camera having sex & being mucky!

Get a life[/QUOTE]

GROW UP don't tell me you beleive in big brothers authenticy as well ? I don't know what amateur you watch but much of it is well you don't have like five camera angle in amateur do you or the noise of a photographer shoting away

there are condoms for all sizes it should be no exscuse at all and wanting to go bareback does not show much respect for you, has he even mentioned the possibility of ther bc methods or just asked to go without the condoms ? dosn't he know that no condom = children

[QUOTE=Newtolove;165412]GROW UP don't tell me you beleive in big brothers authenticy as well ? I don't know what amateur you watch but much of it is well you don't have like five camera angle in amateur do you or the noise of a photographer shoting away[/QUOTE]

Thats right, you dont have a 5 camera angle in amateur porn!Because like I say, it's a couple having sex in front of a camera!!!
Jesus christ you are so slow.

no I've seen some funny "amateur" thats all and frankly real amateur well its not that fun at all

how old are you guys ? you can also go to the docs yourself and get a prescription for pills on your own without your mum knowing still two methods are best, infact condom only is not the best option

Well if I were a parent I would be uncomfortable telling my daughter I didn't want her on the pill. Teenagers have sex despite the fact that they don't want to be parents. I hate to say it, but you may want to be honest with your parents and tell them that you would like to go on the pill.

My parents were more than happy to have me on the pill because they would rather not be grandparents.

Never let a man convince you that you should let him go without a condom. It's entirely your choice and he should respect it.

Good luck and happy humping.

Vampirekitten;

Have you inquired about obtaining the BCP from Planned Parenthood or local clinic? Such institutions do not require parental consent, and your information remains confidential. If these are not practical for you look at a second BC method (to use w/condoms) such as Vaginal Contraceptive Film (VCF) to prevent any unplanned pregnancy & you can obtain them over the counter.

well at 16 you can go and get yourself checked up and prescribed without you parents having to know but their support would be nice to have only you can know how to manage that situation

I can only say it's better then 2 and a half years. Sorry to hear though.

oh dear thats a shame but I must say it did sound like it was in the air a bit, what was the reason ? I suppose if one wants to end it it is best to do so rather than get messed about. I take it you enjoyed it while it lasted just remember that and if you were not a good match better end sooner than later.

I'm sorry to here that anyway

I'm sorry to hear about that. Well, maybe now would be a good time to talk to your parents about getting on the pill. It would seem entirely based off the regulation of periods thing.

Best wishes.

there's never a good time to break up but it gets harder the closer you are and the longer you've been together - i'm sorry.