Hey!

Sounds to me as if your guy needs to be stimulated in more ways than one. Have you tried acting out fantasies? The brain is an awesome sexual toy and with the right stimulation can drive a person sexually wild!

Other than that I can recommend talking to him - find out what it is that makes him feel amazing - try not to focus on the 'end result'.

You say he loves fast sex - I presume that means you struggle when I control to get a pace fast enough to stimulate him to the level he requires? You could look improve your muscle stamina or alternatively try positions such as where you crouch above him and can get him to hold some of your weight by holding your buttocks and help you ride him.

Hope that helps :)

I have got to be honest - being a woman isn't easy in the positional respect!

By getting your partner to hold your buttocks and lift you up and down slightly, he will be able to control the pace slightly more - it will help hopefully!

You could also try one of the sex toys that strap on to the base of the penis and stimulate him - it will also have the benefit of stimulating you too!

Oh and hats off to you for finding ways to please him more :)

Faster? Ok then let him do the moving. Change quickly to the 'from behind' position or 'male superior' then he can bang away as fast as he likes.

Unless the bed you're riding him on is properly set up, and you are on your knees using them as the fulcrum (moving up and forward then down and back) you will not be able to sustain the motion or go at any speed.

I have the same problem as well. Sometimes I can't cum so my GF helps me (usually by sitting on my face) while I masturbate.
What creates this problem for me is either fatigue, not being aroused enough before sex, or the room temperature being too hot or too cold.
Your bf should try and understand what makes him unable to cum.

What generally seems to help me regardless of the things I mentioned is taking as much time as possible between each time we have sex.
I know this for a fact because I cum fast after not seeing her for awhile.

[QUOTE=slssoc;257793]Me and my bf have a great sex life and lots of fun but he takes ages to cum and a lot of the time has to cum via mastubation. I feel frustrated as I feel I cant satisfy him even though he says I do.

Do any of you know a good sex position to help a man climax though, he loves fast sex and as much as I try I just cant seem to do it.

So if any of you could help I would love you forever lol x :)[/QUOTE]

I am a bit lost on this one. What do you mean by 'takes ages to cum'. I always thought that good foreplay and a steady build up was the greatest way to go.

I appreciate we are all different and there are various situations.(A quick early-morning jump prior to getting into the routine of the day does not allow for time-consuming soft lights, fine dining, wine, romantic music, foreplay and eventually orgasm.)

In fact having cum once and then gone into a second phase of foreplay shortly after when 'the mood takes' prior to another orgasm used to be absolutely mind-blowing.

And I always took what thankfully seemed 'ages to cum'!:)

She means pounding away for eons without result once penetration has been achieved.

[QUOTE=slssoc;257793][COLOR="blue">Me and my bf[/COLOR] {My boyfriend and I) [COLOR="blue">have a great sex life and lots of fun but he takes ages to cum and a lot of the time has to cum via mastubation. [/COLOR]

Have you read the articles listed in the Index?

More often than not this problem is one of poor technique. The matter has been discussed time and again on these pages. Fellas nowadays seem to have the misguided misconception that the best way to achieve an orgasm is from lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking. WRONG. Building arousal, excitement, and, anticipation are the reasons why we fool around and make out and later advance to foreplay. It is from all of these activities that we stimulate our minds and our bodies to the brink of a climax.

It is when we have been brought to the brink yet can still maintain enough control to move around and get into position that intercourse should begin. Many women report back that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired. This does not mean that you cannot make love for hours, just that periodic breaks are called for where the two of you fall back and continue to make out.

If you devote half an hour or so to having a great make out session (not just foreplay) the time spent will prepare you and benefit him. If you bring him to the peak of an orgasm, then it should not require much in the way of stroking and thrusting to bring about his orgasm. That he must stroke himself is proof than he has not become aroused sufficiently by any/all of the other stuff you do.
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I feel frustrated as I feel I cant satisfy him even though he says I do.[/COLOR]

I urge the two of you to read all of the articles listed in the Index, especially those concerning the how-to's of making out. Please discuss what you have read and then go practice.

[COLOR="blue">Do any of you know a good sex position to help a man climax though, he loves fast sex and as much as I try I just cant seem to do it.

So if any of you could help I would love you forever lol [/COLOR]x :)[/QUOTE]

If your boyfriend wears a condom, I recommend adding some lube to just the glans of his penis before rolling the condom on. This will give more wiggle room and transmit more friction.

Condoms add an extra layer of insulation and many guys find it difficult no matter how turned on they are to go past the point of no control. So, please tell us a bit more about what is going on and maybe we can provide more information.

> About the pace your right, I go as fast as I can and he says faster but I cant sustain it, we do talk and he is good, he hasnt complained in any way im just trying to please him more.

Please read this article listed in the Index:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?