I have a very serious girlfriend for over 3 yrs. we have a great relationship as well as a great sexual relationship. we have sex often and it is very good. but i still find myself wanting to look up porn on the internet and masturbate. If my girlfriend finds out she gets really up set and goes off. telling me that isnt she enough and says that if it is so important that she wont have sex with me anymore. which it isnt that important i just enjoy doing it. is their something wrong me with me?
Tue, 12/02/2003 - 18:30
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Porn vs. Girlfriend
Absolutely nothing wrong...in fact masturbating keeps up ur libido!!...she should be grateful :P
as its been described several times on this site.
many guys compare masturbation to scratching an itch.
its just something they do w/ no emotional at all... just a means to get off.
i guess discuss w/ your girlfriend this analogy. that when you masturbate to porn it has nothing to do w/ wanting someone else, its just a means to an end.
i know my b/f does this sometimes when its my time of the month or im just tired or not in the mood to fool around.
im not offended by it.
i think your g/f would only have to worry if you masturbated so often that you never wanted to have sex w/ her... then it would be an issue.
plus i dont think women should use sex to make her man do or not do something.
its not something to be used as leverage in a relationship. its something intimate you share and it shouldn't be belittled that way.
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Queer eye for the straight guy opinion: No there is nothing wrong with you. But obviously her feelings are being hurt. Maybe she feels you are looking for something better.
Try reassuring her that this is just harmless fantasy. Guys tend to look at this differently; we know that sometimes you just want to "get off", and this is totally different from sex.
Hopefully, you will also get some female opinion. A viewpoint of how to explain that this is no threat to her.
Not a thing wrong with you.