[QUOTE=DL69;258464]Nuttychick why did you even post to my question. You are rather rude to call it silly. You even said everyone has different preferences, but you still answered the way you did, what a b*tch. If you don't have something to say to help kindly don't say anything. Again if you find it pointless and boring why post?[/QUOTE]

lol no need to get all agro.
name calling is immature and uncalled for.:D So chill and go search the many options available thru google

You really need to look for yourself or who ever you are looking for to find what you/they like.

[QUOTE=DL69;258461]I have but that still doens't tell me what the good ones are, do you have a preference?[/QUOTE]

That is kind of silly... Everyone has different preferences in everything we do. So it is best to choose for yourself. look thru and and see what there is .....and then make your own decision
BTW I find all porn boring and pointless...:D

I am a woman and I've tried to find the same thing, but it's hard. There are a couple (two that I can think of) of "for women/by women" sites but I found them way too corny. I've found a few specific videos that I like, not sites, but 99% of what I've come across turns me off completely. I found this yesterday. It's not degrading or gross, but it's not boring and cheesy either. This isn't porn made for women specifically, looks more like it's for couples. [url=http://youporn.com/watch/463310/intense-sensuality-sex-with-feeling/?fro... Lite (BETA) - Porn

put "porn for women" in google and take your pick.

Some of us find all the videos off-putting. I prefer my porn in written form and a bit on the romantic side. Even most of the "women's porn" is really produced for men. I support nutty.

I've written on several threads such as http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/28897-wh... how the agressive nature of pornography invokes no arousal at all in me, most times I simply feel fear... I usually can't stand to watch longer then a minute. I'm not that demanding on where he comes, shaven or not, condoms or not, etc. All I ask for is to see people who do not treat each other like they just came rolling down from the stone-age, but who honor each others bodies with shear pleasure! Well, actors who pretend to be and make me believe it, as that's what acting is about...

[quote]I found this yesterday. It's not degrading or gross, but it's not boring and cheesy either. This isn't porn made for women specifically, looks more like it's for couples. [url=http://youporn.com/watch/463310/intense-sensuality-sex-with-feeling/?fro... Lite (BETA) - Porn[/QUOTE]

Though I thought chances were very tiny I'd ever see porn fitting the standards of a romantic idiot such as myself, the posted vid really comes surprisingly close to something I'd like to watch. I don't see "just" a penis aggressively attacking a vagina while she screams more likely from pain then pleasure; I see two people gazing into eachother's eyes, smiling and expressing pleasure. I've watched the total 14 minutes, so I've certainly beat a personal record ;) But it get's even better: I've watched it without any sense of fear and even liking what I see! Yes it's real sex, not over-romanticized. It actually kinda resembles the way we make love, which makes it something I can relate to and even makes me feel "longing" for it. Which is rare; not the actual "longing" for it, but this sort of trigger to it...

Anyways, this vid just gets my hopes up that there might be some good pornography hidden in this world (wide web). So, thank you Ravishing! :)

I actually take the same stance as RedRoses, albeit I think there is a deeper level of misogyny and exploitation going on than people would like to admit. I think most porn is degrading at best, harmful at worst, but there are always exceptions to the rule. Not all porn is meant to be degrading. I admit, I still try to find better porn that I can enjoy despite all my ranting about the subject. That probably makes me a hypocrite. :rolleyes:

[QUOTE=ravishing;258479], I still try to find better porn that I can enjoy despite all my ranting about the subject. That probably makes me a hypocrite. :rolleyes:[/QUOTE]

No not a hypocrite.. you are who you are. You know what you want to see:D
As I was trying to point out to the OP :rolleyes: you need to find out what you like for your-self.. Which you have done:D

DL:

Sorry to tell you this but I find most pornography fake, empty and boring.

This is because as a woman, if I want sex, I can get sex and being a dominating sexually aggressive sort, I can get sex on my terms. I also have a vivid imagination, a strong libido, and more energy than a nuclear power station.

Most women who have embraced their sexuality express similar sentiments regarding pornography And yes, we find the question silly, because the answer 'consult thy lady' is obvious.

So when nutty tells you to consult the lady in question, calling her a bitch damns yourself. I recommend erasing that word from your vocabulary unless you're speaking about actual female canines.

DL69,

The meta-communication is simply that all five women, however we responded, gave you very similar answers, in content if not tone. Might be a message there!

Saying the obvious is hardly degrading you.

Some women like coffee and some prefer tea. Which your lady would like we have no way of knowing. If you're close enough to be considering pornography for her than you should be close enough to her to ask what she likes.

Quite frankly I have never heard such a load of condescending load of s***e in all my life, why is there so much nastiness on this forum, if you have no constructive answer to the question don't bother to reply.

RexyRay we ARE being constructive.

Have you renovated a house? First step is demolition. This fellow had the preconceived notion that women could be grouped all together in their likes and dislikes, tastes, and so on.

We had to disabuse him of that notion before we could move on.

While guys in general will accept almost anything pornographic most women are much more individual and have stronger opinions.

As we have demonstrated.

[QUOTE=ravishing;258479]I actually take the same stance as RedRoses, albeit I think there is a deeper level of misogyny and exploitation going on than people would like to admit. I think most porn is degrading at best, harmful at worst, but there are always exceptions to the rule. Not all porn is meant to be degrading. I admit, I still try to find better porn that I can enjoy despite all my ranting about the subject. That probably makes me a hypocrite. :rolleyes:[/QUOTE]
Well, I'm with Nutty, I don't find you a hypocrite! And I do think that there are lots of women being exploited. And that there are even more who participate only because they need money very very badly. And that kinda makes it sad... Off course there are actresses who enjoy it and receive good money for it as well :) Though I can hardly figure out how the "regular" stuff would be enjoyable for a woman... but hey; that's just me!

Also: I think chances are higher to find such 'b(s)ad' pornography at free websites, then on DVD-productions. This is totally uncontrolled content! There are things on the web that are illegal, not to mention horrifying. I sometimes wish that there would be more victims that would find themselves on the web and be able to identify and press charges that would leave the attacker in prison to rot in hell! And get her a great som of money from the website, so high it leaves them crippled, so they'd be thinking twice before allowing such content! Instead: they should be forwarding it immediately to the police at suspicion of rape. If it was an actress they'd better damn proof it... Or even simply: get her consent for publishing. Cause yes: if it was published against her will, here you could press charges for that too, which equals assault. (recently a guy publishing secretly taped upskirt-video's did get the message this wasn't innocent activity..)

Well, that was just me ranting :rolleyes: O, and I'm happy with this forum. I thought to be abnormal that I couldn't watch it. It's been quite a relief to find how there are many more like me.

O, and for DL69; there is a Dutch sexshop that has collected DVD's that are made for women and produced and directed by women as well: [url=http://www.mailfemale.com/porno-erotica/vrouwen-porno]Vrouwen Porno - Mail Female I don't know anything about the quality, but still: it might help you. O, and uhmmm... if you're looking to buy it for a special lady, I would take the advise of the other women and ask her :) If it's supposed to be a surprise, you could just give it a try and find out...

[QUOTE=DL69;258532]Honestly I don't know why some people are here posting with all their preconceived notions. Especially that I don't talk to my wife or haven't about this, we have and do quite often discuss different aspects of sex. I was simple asking because we thought their might be someone out there who have searched for the same as us. But NO I or others who might come to this post, have to hear about several personal opinions about me about porn about men in general. You don't even read the question. I never asked what she would like, Evil and Nutty, I simple asked where to find it so we could check it out. What a shame Ray, but the way it is.[/QUOTE]

Your original question was answered. You didn't like the answers and didn't think they applied to what you wanted because you phrased the question very, very poorly. Your original post makes the assumption that all women want the same thing and you never said what specific things you were looking for or even what you were looking to avoid. If you had discussed this topic with the partner who was interested, then you should have at least known and provided that information. To have not provided that information quickly leads those responding to either assume that you haven't discussed it with anyone in particular or are too ignorant to know what to ask for and either one leads to the responses you've received.

Dear DL69,
I'm sorry to hear that you feel like your questions weren't properly answered, being:
[INDENT]-Does anyone know of a good site or where to find porn that is more designed and written from a ladies perspective?
-Do you have a preference?[/INDENT]

I tried to answer them with best intentions and I guess everyone did try to do that in their own way. As for the last stated goal; I do think you did find several "someone's out there who have searched for the same as us" (same as us= pornography for the ladies). It's just that each lady has her preferences (as pointed out) and is therefor looking for something a bit different. So that might be different from whatever you and your wife may be looking for... Still hope the contributions have been meaningful in a way :)

O, to which I'd like to add: The clip Ravishing posted came from a 180 minute film called: [url=http://www.artofsexmovie.com/home.html]"The Art of Sex" produced by: [url=http://www.vivthomas.com/]VivThomas.com where you could also buy the download. I have no personal experience with this site... But maybe the synopsis relates to something you two are looking for?

[INDENT]Usually in straight porn, we cut right into a deep-throat blowjob given by a overly made-up girl in 6-inch heels, then the pumped up male figure proceeds to fuck the shit out of her like she’s an animal, as she screams and pretends to enjoy herself. It is void of intimacy, it is a cold, mechanical and empty performance.

We wanted to smash through this convention and make something totally new, taking what we’ve been doing with lesbian erotica and applying it to straight sex scenes. The girls had to be loved, worshipped and caressed, the feelings and ardour shared between the man and the woman had to be real, as did the orgasms. Kissing, eye-contact, loving and romantic touches, intimacy, these were the things we aimed to show, as we felt more honestly represented the reasons and the way people make love in the real world.[/INDENT]

Good luck with your search! Cause if there's one thing that's clear from this thread: it's rather hard to find porn that pleases the (specific) lady... :)

You may want to try the word EROTICA instead

Very hard to find porn movies geared to women. Does it even exist? More likely the books written will be more exciting to a woman.