My wife and I were raised religiously, and while she's come out of her religious shell quite a bit since we were married, she still has reservations about many things related to sex, including watching porn.
We sat and talked about it recently, and she decided that it would be okay, as long as we were watching them together.
Now comes the fun part: She's never seen an adult movie before, and has only seen a few still-frame photos of naked people, Playboy style. I don't think she's ever even seen a picture of people engaged in any sexual activity.
I want to find a movie that we can watch together that she would feel relatively comfortable with. I know that if I start her out with something that's too much for her, she'll retreat back into her shell, and it'll be a while before I can get her to come out again, if ever.
Does anyone have any recommendations for a movie? To give you an idea, she said that she didn't want to start with anything nasty, and her example of nasty was a woman giving a man a blowjob. (I've got my work cut out for me, I know.) 
I was thinking of starting out with something non-porn, actually, and seeing how she reacts. Maybe just a film with more nudity and sexual tension than normal, such as Striptease or Showgirls, and then working into actual porn from there. (She's seen neither. Tends to avoid rated R movies...)
If in the end she doesn't feel comfortable watching porn, things will be fine. We've got a wonderful relationship, and she goes out of her way to try and explore new sexual areas to make me happy. She's the best. I simply think this might open some possibilities for our sex life.
Any help would be GREATLY appreciated.
HotDiggity
You guys sound pretty happy together and she sounds pretty sexually scared... But you say that it's no big deal if she doesn't open up more so I think you've answered your own question besides what movie. I think it would be best for you to get those striptease kind of movies and watch them BUT explain to her this isn't a porn just an R rated movie. (Not in canada!) So after that if she's not back in her shell go to the porn store and ask for a movie that's strictly vaginal sex... then see what goes from there!
Drew
I'd have to agree...maybe not the hardcore porn right away. I was rather sheltered and the first time I saw a real porn with the barbie-looking woman screaming orgasmicly and jumping on a dick, with the crazy penetration shots and horrible acting....I was scarred for life. I seriously never wanted sex ever.
So obviously I'm not a porn fan, but some of the heavier R or even HBO/SHOWTIME latenight stuff can be hot and for even a girl like me it can work. I can't really suggest anything off the top of my head, but I'm sure someone has to know of a good R movie with some good sex moments that aren't too over the top. Hopefully one with some good acting so it doesnt totally kill the attempt. Ha.
But, there might be decent acting porns with good plots that aren't too scary...if there are, let me know! haha.
i dunno im kind of the opposite. even though my b/f and i have watched some porns together i still blush...lol...when we watch them.
on the other hand if i watch it by myself i dont feel as embarrassed or something.
id say buy something soft-core like the other posts suggested nothing too XXX, then leave it where she can see it.
i know her curiosity will get the best of her and when you aren't there she'll have to take a peak at it to see what its all about. of course she wont admit to it...lol.
that way when its time for you guys to watch it together she'll know what to expect for herself.
if when she watched it alone and it totally freaked her out then she can just tell you and not have to freak out in front of you when you guys watch it together for the first time.
[QUOTE=Quote (Teknics @ July 28 2003,11:58)]So after that if she's not back in her shell go to the porn store and ask for a movie that's strictly vaginal sex...[/QUOTE]
Jeez, you have porn stores where you live?
Thats what I call lucky...
HotDiggity, you might want to consider an "instructional" video. Although I've not watched one, I believe that they are explicit, but tastefully done and explain the virtues of the techniques with respect to both mind and body. Check them out.
Get her first educational movies. There is this series called The better sex video series and you and you wife should watch them. They have normal everyday people in them and they teach how to give blow jobs and which postitions are confortable and so on... so step by step and with every movie she sees she gets use to in an educated way cuz it is educational and there are doctors who make these movies.. (try and find soem movies like that: educational and made by doctors) Tell her it is educational. She will eventually get confortable with the videos and will eventually get turned on by them. Then get ones fitting what she liked seeing in the educational videos and go there. DO NOT get chains and whips and ones with gang bangs and so one she may get icked by em' at first. But gradually with what she likes get the videos that suit that
and someday she will get more and more confortable with them and will want to see more ... maybe even dark pornos with chains and whips and what not. Just remember HAVE FUN and LAUGH with her and also BE THERE FOR HER and BE PATIENT. She is modest but every modest girl also wants to see a little porn here and there.
id say try a striptease movie