Hi i like porn movies magazines etc. much. i married 9 months ago.first 2-3 months everything was perfect but after that i miss porn documents like movies etc. İ donno am i porn addict ? and i dont know how to find a solution.
Sun, 06/27/2010 - 10:14
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porn addict.
Addiction or not, one very good way is behavior modification. If you truly want to change, then substitute something else to do in the place of.
* Watch a movie other than X-rated. G is good.
* Run/walk and invite your wife to accompany you.
* Cook, do the laundry, clean the house, anything that occupies your mind.
Expect that there will be some anxiety to contend with and just work your way thru the experience--over and over.
* Please read the articles listed in the Index and invite your wife to do so with you or independently, then discuss what you have learned. Improving your knowledge is empowering. Rev up your lovemaking repertoire and do things that you do not usually do with her.
Make her (and you) the focal point of your love making, not the characters in any of the videos. Realize that you cannot always believe what you see in the movies so do not be compelled to try this or that position or action or last as long or.....
Make up your own script. If you have a video camera, make your own movies {plural).
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc
A functional or behavioural definition of an addiction is, "a need or a compulsion for something to a degree that it interferes with normal relationships." You make the call.
Most counselors can assist or refer you to someone who is experienced in porn addiction.
OKAY - so let's explore this 'addiction'
WHAT SPECIFICALLY DO YOU MISS and WHY?
Because it seems to me that you might be running away from the intimacy required in marriage - you are new to being married after all.