I am a 21 year old and have been dating my boyfriend (same age) for 2 years.

We recently had a talk about my sex drive. He told me that I am not as blunt or spontaneous as I used to be. I don't "jump his bones" the way I did when we first dated. He started this conversation by asking me if I loved our sex.

I thought that question was absurd. I am very attracted to him, physically and mentally. I absolutely love the sex. He does a lot to please me.

But I can kind of see where he is coming from.

We lived together for a short while, and in June of 2007 he moved almost 2 hours away from me with his friends. The place we were living at was going up for rent. I needed to stay and finish school. His friends were his only other option to live.

Neither of us have cars right now, so visiting is a big issue. He takes the bus down when he has off of work, and I come up and visit when my parents let me borrow their car AND I have off of work. We see eachother every other week for 2-4 days at a time.

Even with what little time we have together, the time we can spend for sex is limited. He has a roommate - as in, there is another guy, with another girflriend, who resides in the same bedroom as my boyfriend. When my boyfriend visits me, I live with my parents. They are here all the time. We have a 'frat' kind of house. There is ALWAYS people here. Always guests to entertain.

Basically, we live far away from eachother, and when we do see eachother, we have no privacy. So, I'm not exactly horny when he is, or all the time.

But - when he leaves, I masturbate quite a lot. It's become something I do only when I'm bored. I've recently noticed this to be a problem when he came to visit me a month ago and, even tho I was very attracted to him, I couldn't get wet. I related sex to boredom. Since I'm never bored when I'm with him, I was never wet. So, I've stopped masturbating, and the sex has been amazing since.

I think my intimacy problems stem from the fact that there is always something going on around us. When we lived together, I was very free-spirited when it came to sex. We had no one else living with us and we saw eachother ALL the time. There were no limits. Now, there are tons.

But, how can these factors be a problem when they dont seem to be a problem for him?

I think he brought this up because what few times we get to have sex, I turned him down once.

So...this probably sounds like a very confusing, open-ended thread. This is my first time ever doing a forum.

My question is:
- How do I show my love for him 'the way I used to'? I'm very content with him now. I feel doing anything else would be an act. How do I 'jump his bones' and mean it?

- Im not going to be horny at the same time as him. What is a nice way to turn him down where his feelings wont get hurt?

- Is there something wrong with me? I am completely satisfied with how he pleases me, but he thinks im sort of falling behind my normal ways. Is there something I can do to make this situation better?

I just don't know what to do when I'm completely happy, and I can't understand his opinion enough to make a positive change.