pubococcygeus muscle aka kegel

[Shnitzel]

I know I have post a lot about the PC muscles, but I have never asked how to use them during sex. Right now I'm up to holding my muscles for 20 to 30 seconds, so I believe I'm on the right tract. During sex what am I suppose to do? Am I suppose to squeeze, and keep it that way until hes done? or am I suppose to hold like I do in my exercises? Or is there another way to doing them during sex?

[dancingdoc2]

I frequently remark that sex is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other--in partnership.

As for how to use those muscles, explore and learn together. Try a variety different things and see how the two of you react to different lengths of time you squeeze, when to squeeze, etc.

Sex play in not by the numbers--do A, B, & C, and Z will result. Learn to explore, be flexible in what and when you do this, that, or, the other, and ask for feedback from you partner as to how s/he is responding and for what they want now/next.

Variety is the spice of life. Another way of saying this is: make it up as you go along.

-doc

[Brandye]

A "trick" many men men will appreciate is totally dependent upon a well developed pc muscle: Sit on top with him inside you and, without moving any other muscles, bring him off by seemingly drawing him up into you, slowly and rhythmically. Do not worry if you tire out; simply lean forward with your hands on his chest or the mattress and start a rocking motion.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Flex it, by all means, flex it.

[Shnitzel]

Ok thank you! But is this something that i can do in a couple of months? Because the people i talk to said it will take years to be able to do what Brandye said.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yeah. So what? Do you really mind the practicing?

[Shnitzel]

No i don't, guess I'm kinda scared to be practicing for that long to find out I been doing it wrong the whole time.

[Brandye]

Either try it or forget it. You are going to the extent of practicing and strengthening the pc muscle. Good for you. Now, you can use it, in small does as you build up, or you can let it go to waste. At the very least, you are in better shape, at least in one part, then you were before.

Do it or do not do it. Keep your excuses to yourself.

[Shnitzel]

Ok ok thank yall for the advice.