idk wat to do...

[killerchinadoll]

Well Guys I am in desperate need of some advise..my BF dnt want to have sex withme any more. Is this normal?? Am I doing something wrong? The other night I was in the mood, so I put some sexy lingerie on andi gave him a body rub down.. I got him hard n I gave him head..n out of no were he straight up told me that he didnt Wannt to have sex. Nd we havnt since then. Whyy?? Help me please...

[nuttychick]

Have you asked him ?
Not knowing you or him it is rather hard for us to assertain exactly what the problem is.

Communication is the key to a good healthy relationship.. So Talk to him

[pinkFlames]

To me, an off night or two is not a problem until it becomes a pattern.

[Moonwalker]

Yeah try to communicate with him, may be has a problem in his mind ? May be something about job, school or family or whatever... Try to learn if he has a problem but do not push him too much

[killerchinadoll]

Yea, I have tried to ask him if somethings wrong. He keeps saying no.. idk I hope this isnt guna keep going.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by killerchinadoll

Yea, I have tried to ask him if somethings wrong. He keeps saying no.. idk I hope this isnt guna keep going.

Well obviously there is a problem. maybe tell him to either tell you why he doesn't want to have sex with you or you will find someone who will...
And no more giving him oral to entice him..

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay this is ridiculous - he has a problem and YOU immediately think that YOU'RE doing something wrong and also YOU think YOU have to "fix" this.

HELL NO!

This is HIS problem and you are NOT responsible for it.
All you have to do is decide if you want to hang around a guy who has issues he's not willing to discuss and is holding out on you (in effect punishing you and making this your problem) while he holds out.

I recommend that you say "Let me know when you've figured out what your problem is." and walk.

People: if you have an issue - take responsibility, be adult enough to talk about it.

[killerchinadoll]

Ok, for one I am NOT ridiculous.. and its not so easy to just walk away.. we live together.. I just wanted so advice. I've tried talking n stuff nd were kinda geting over it. But we haven't had sex yet.. but were close..so thank you!! Nd if you have anymore suggestions id love to hear em.. =)

[dancingdoc2]

> Ok, for one I am NOT ridiculous..

EEK did not say "you" are ridiculous, only the situation.

> its not so easy to just walk away.. we live together.. I just wanted so advice.

It usually never is when you have an emotional investment in someone, whether you live together or not. That you do means one or both of you will have to find another place to live, or, if there is no fix to the problem, continue to live with things the way they are.

> I've tried talking n stuff nd were kinda geting over it. But we haven't had sex yet.. but were close..

I would believe you are "close" if there was communication between you. For a relationship to work, each person must be willing to share and bare his/her soul, or even eat dirt, so to speak.

Have you read this article?
I think we are ready to live together!!
We frequently hear about people living together who later find that one, the other, or both are not happy living together. Similarly, we frequently read a post in which a couple is contemplating moving in together and looking for a suitable residence. Here is an initial Check List.

> so thank you!! Nd if you have anymore suggestions id love to hear em.. =)

I do not have any more suggestions to add, other than if you have done what you can to learn why things are as they are, with little or no cooperation from your boyfriend, then it is time to realize that only he can fix what is wrong and if he isn't willing to then what you have relationship-wise is what you have. Like it or leave and continue the dating process knowing that dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us.

The dating continues until Mr./Ms. Right comes along and even after giving the present love interest a test drive.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, my advice is to wise up a bit and actually read what was typed.

You've known this guy since you were 17 and now you're 21. What kind of life are you building for yourself? Do you want this kind of life for the rest of your life - and not just the good bits?

He pouts, you fix it. He's upset and you fix it. He withholds, you try to fix it.

STOP BEING LITTLE MISS FIX IT.

He's an adult. Expect him to behave like one and not some pouty child. Ignore any emotions he's not willing to rationally discuss.