cowgirl position

[tinker349]

ok, so heres the deal, I am very new to sex and I really want to get this position right. It makes me feel really in control, but the only problem is that my boyfriend says he doesnt feel it much. It is not the condoms because he can feel everything else and they are crown condoms, which are the best ones or so im told. Can anyone give me any tips on how to make it more pleasurable for him?

[lnt1103]

This is just about the only way T and I have actual intercourse--partly because he's basically 2-3 of me weight-wise, and I think he's nervous about his size were he to get on top. Anyway, two ideas off the top of my head from our experiences:

*try playing around with the angle between your body and his--lean backward or forward from 90 degrees and see where it works best. This is also a good way to experiment with where YOU feel it best.

*don't be afraid to truly lift yourself UP, higher than you'd think. I know the first few times I did this position with T, there would be times I bounced so high I thought he'd come out. Which, granted occasionally he does, it's just part of it. But the point is, you'll get a lot more feel out of simple grinding than he will. He needs more of the up-and-down.

[tinker349]

ok when i go up or down he says i dont fo fast enough but i go only as fast as i can and if i have to get faster for him to want to do it then how would i do that?

[dancingdoc2]

Have you looked at the illustrated animated sex positions information on the site's Home page? If not, go see.

While you can rise and fall vertically, why not try stroking more horizontally where you ride "up and down" toward and away from his abdomen and chest?

His difficulty might be because of the angle of his penis. It is for me and while I enjoy the Woman Superior position, and the pleasure it provides my better half, it does nothing for my penis. This is because of the lack of vaginal contact where I need it compared to other positions that work just fine. So, if this is what is happening you may just have to enjoy some of cowgirl and some of something else, after your needs are fulfilled. Works for me.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page, you will find even more information including what I mentioned, above.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[tinker349]

that is a big help thankyou! I did look at the animation as well this is the first site i visited to inform myself on all the information and so far it hasnt failed me.

[dancingdoc2]

Thank you for the kind words. We are here to help and to hopefully make life easier for those following those of us who have gone before, so to speak.

Another thought is to plan your lovemaking so that intercourse (regardless of the position used) does not begin unless and until he is on the brink of an orgasm. A lot of fellas nowadays believe that the way to a climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking--wrong. This is the purpose of all the making out and then foreplay that precedes intercourse.

Because of the likelihood that the fit within the vagina with regard to the natural bend of his penis may not provide the friction where it is most needed, waiting until he is about to climax yet can still maintain enough control in order to move around and get into position is hedging your bet quite a bit.

So, if your guy believes lots of stroking is the path to take for him to climax, he needs to use a different approach and spend no less than half an hour building your arousal, plus his from all that you contribute during your make out session and the foreplay that follows, first and foremost, regardless of the position used.

Stroking should not last longer than about ten minutes. When it does, many women report becoming SORE, bored, and tired. This does not mean that the two of you cannot enjoy extended love making that lasts an hour or more, just do it in stages with breaks during intercourse to do other things before continuing on.

I am happy to learn that you have found our site helpful. I encourage the two of you to read the many articles listed in the Index. Knowledge is empowering. There is much background information on all this, plus how-to information. Be sure to read the articles by EvilEvilKitten.

-doc

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay - regarding the "on top" aka male superior position for you larger males- really you guys have got to get this right. You DON'T actually LAY ON TOP of her and forget supporting yourself on your elbows. You get down between her thighs and go pelvis forward and back with your hands about up to the level of her hips and you ROCK in and out - small movements - by flexing your lower back. The degree of lean determines which internal hotspot you'll be caressing. Sit more upright to for G-Spot and the anterior fornix and lean down further for the posterior fornix.

This way, the male's bulk becomes immaterial.
You will also notice that this leaves the lady free to move about thus enhancing the interlude.

[tinker349]

First of all, I want to thank all of you for your advise because my boyfriend loves this position now and second thankyou for making this site it has been yhe most help becuase I knew nothing about sex untill I found this site.