Bound & tied !

[sania]

I have not tried being fucked bound. I want to try it once with my hubby just to spice up our sexlife. Once we tried when I was tied X with bed posts. But it was usual. Possibly there can be nothing new. I dont know.
Any idea on how to make it more spicy for my hubby. ( definetly I should also enjoy ).

[EvilEvilKitten]

There's lots of info on this both in here and elsewhere on the web.

Be careful what you wish for and remember - no restraining for more than 45 minutes at any one time, have a safe word, and never leave a bound person alone for any length of time.

PErsonally I recommend doing The Program and Body Worshipping - that tends to spice things up quite nicely and doesn't take additional items.

[dlb]

Different people get off in different ways. Bondage (or bindage) is not for everyone, but I happen to enjoy it very much-so I'll share some thoughts.

There are different restraint systems: metal, leather restraints, cages and stocks,and then rope and other tyable materials.

Most people begin with tying (many find their kinky niche right there) and most begin with tying or being tied to a bed. A common question is-I have my partner tied, now what do I do?

Tying a person on her back, legs apart, allows the tier to fondle and caress, lick and suck and of course penetrate the tied person. The "victim" is at the mercy of her partner. You do it once, you do it again, you wonder -is that all?

Many people enjoy adding role play to their bondage. There is a style of bondage called DID ,Damsel or Dude) In Distress. These are role play scenarios in which one partner has been taken prisoner or hostage by a robber, rival gang member, vikings/pirates/bad cowboy etc. and the other partner is either the "bad guy" or the hero who saves her. The prisoner can be "tortured" and taken advantage of sexually. If the partner is playing the hero role he can discover her bound, set her free and save her and then receive his "reward" from her.

Another approach to rope bondage is making an extended love making session using rope. This requires no role playing, only two people who want to share. Rope comes in different materials and textures. Probably the easiest to find will be the white soft polypropelene at your local Super Store or cotton rope if you can find it. For people who decide to explore farther there are silk, bamboo (very soft actually), flax, jute,hemp (my favorite) and other materials in a variety of colors.

Let the tying become foreplay. It doesn't have to be spread eagle on the bed. You can tie a person to a chair, table leg, a sturdy coffee table, any secure post or pillar like structure or rather than tying the person to something simply tie her in a position. While in DID bondage the tying process can be sort of playfully rough in this type of bondage the rope should be applied playfully and sensually. There can be lots of caressing and hugging and teasing as the rope goes around the limbs and torso (never around the neck!) and many rope enthusiasts enjoy the feel of the rope being pulled gently across their skin. It is a bonding not only of a body, but a bonding of minds and souls that many of us feel. After the copulation or what have you, the love making continues as the ropes are removed. More gentleness, talk of how hot or beautiful she looks with rope, using the rope to continue stimulating the skin, more caresses and hugs as are inevitable while removing rope from a torso.

some positions

Tying a persons wrists to her ankles makes her feel "vulnerable" and "controlled" and also leaves her open to sexual stimulation while on her back, side or even knees with face down for vaginal or anal penetration. In this last position the partner doing the tying and penetrating should be sure that his "victim" has a pillow for support, can be comfortable (unless discomfort is your thing) and is in no danger of suffocation. Also in this position the tied person can be on her knees and apply oral sex to the seated or standing partner.

Tied over a sturdy object: a banister (if it is solid), a couch, a large trunk (good if you are playing pirate and wench) an ottoman, or fancy dungeon furniture if you really get into this!

Arms under breasts. This is good if your guy is a breast man as it pushes the breasts together and lifts them. You will be helpless to fend him off as he gropes, mouths and slides his penis between your breasts!

Decorative Erotic Rope

The situations described above are all about functional bondage. There is another approach which consists of decorating one's partner's body with rope. Movement might be restricted, but often as not she is free to walk around, using the "bondage" like rope lingerie. Many people find that it looks and feels sexy. When you look and feel sexy you want to have sex! I make, brassieres, corsets, leggings and gauntlets, dresses and bikinis from rope.

Before you get Started

The above is an overview of approaches to bondage. There are much more advanced things that I did not mention.

Bondage can be very dangerous. Never do bondage when a person does not feel well, is under the influence of any substance, suffers epilepsy, or does not consent to this sort of activity.

Always have safety scissors-EMT shears are best- at hand. At hand means the person responsible for tying can reach them within 1 second and cut the rope off in case of an emergency.

Never tie a person or allow yourself to be tied to something that could fall over. Always give objects a serious stress test before using them as a hard point.

Some people are allergic to certain fibers. If you are unsure about whether a certain rope might cause a reaction wear a piece around a wrist or ankle for a few minutes to see if there is a reaction. Better that than wait until you are completely wrapped up and helpless.

Many people will tell you "have a safe word." Read the sticky and decide whether you need one or not.
What is a "Safe Word"? Choosing & Using...

Now some links to give you some ideas about how rope baondage can be done.

Basic tying instructions
TwistedMonk.com

and some useful pretty stuff

\\ Japan Rope • Home //

and some decorative stuff

Ropefashions Warning Page


Have fun!

[EvilEvilKitten]

DLB is into rope as you can see.

I am into leather, which can be found at any pet store. Hardly anyone is allergic to leather but I suppose there could be someone. Since scizzors don't work well on leather, always get ends with snaps catches on them for quick release.

[sania]

Thanks DLB. EEK, what is body worshipping & the program.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Two Sticky Posts found elsewhere on this forum.
They're in the Index.

[sania]

Thank EEK. I read your posts, ' THE PROGRAM' and ' BODY WORSHIP" Really you are great. I would try it soon.

[sania]

Having sex bound and tied or dominated makes anything different with your regular partner? Even if you are bound, you know what your partner will do.

Or is it to be tried with a new guy who you dont know? You dont know what he will do ?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Even the slightest change can have profound effects. It will put your partner in a whole new light.

[*HEATHER*]

you should trust the person your letting bind you. i recomend doing this with someone your familiar with and have had sex with quite a few times. definately have a safe word incase things get out of hand. but it can be sooooo amazing. i love getting tied down by my boyfriend. it turns me on like crazy. but ive been with his for a while and i don't think id feel as comfortable with someone i dont know well tying me up.