He doesn't like bjs...

[AndreaNeedsham]

When I first became sexual I recieved oral from a couple of guys that did it wrong so that made me not like it and I didnt want ANYONE performing it on me.

I havent met a guy in my life that doesnt enjoy getting oral, but I think that maybe he just hasnt recieved it the correct way. Try reading and doing as much research as possible to give good oral and practice on a similiar shaped object. Tell him you want to try and it would only be fair he lets you.

[springfever]

...but what he would like is to have sex, and Im not yet ready for that..

But I get your point, in that he probablly gonna know his likes and dislikes to a certain degree by now.

Like I said, I think I shall have to speak to him bout it. And maybe try again after some practise on a "similar shaped object"...and try an work around what he does not like about it. If he doesn't enjoy then, I guess Ill just leave it at that...guess ill have to cope with doing the recieving mainly lol. I just figure he may get board of hand jobs or something..i dunno..

[lnt1103]

Yes, just chat with him. There are ways to pleasure him other than oral and intercourse.

[springfever]

Just thought I would share my happiness...

Everything has been going well, and spoke to him bout my insecurities in not being able to fully pleasure him, to which he still just responds that he is happy pleasing me, and it turns him on to turn me on, and that there is not much I can do. But knowing I want to try, we are making out and he says that he wants me to try if I still want.

I was worried it would end like before, so said for him to like, tell me what he liked as i was doing it. :S But it didn't He loved it soo much haha. Sorry if tmi, but I was very happy. And he was coz I was. He even asked for one again later the same night haha.

Think it's coz he's a bit of a clean freak that put him off; wasn't keen on the idea of kissing after, but yay. The deep throat he very much liked

Thbak you for everyones advice

[sprtskhne33]

Yes some guys don't enjoy it. I didn't at first until I talked it over with my girlfriend on how to improve it. I was sore the first time she did it. When she did it, she had her mouth closed down tight against it and her teeth dug in and was scrapping it as she was going up in down. What I suggested to her to make it better was to either don't close as tight or wrap her lips around her teeth so she's not like bitting down. You should try that if that was the problem.

[springfever]

ty for the advice...don't think this was the case as i do this already...teeth sounds ver painful :S

I had only ever tried b4, and I think it was a combination of psychological disliking, he is more sensitive than average and lack of lube.

Anyhow is all great now; i improved my technique, and he let down a barrier; and he loved it quite frankly. Even more so loved the smile on my face after. Had driven me mad for weeks that I couldn't get him to cum. And that he let me makes me feel kinda privileged

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

I am not a fan of oral sex on me, i find it more interesting doing it to the female then me, i rather 69 then total oral by itself
69 is better with you can get the female to orgasm and your not so focused on it being done to you, the guy is working on the female instead while still feeling good
maybe try that as something different other then just doing things to him
when you do 69 do a mix of oral / hand so it wont hurt so much to him

[springfever]

...I don't think you read the whole post.

He has only found it painfull once months ago, and put me an him off. He since said that he generally doesn't like bjs but never explained why. But let me this week, as he feels comfortable with me, and knew I felt insecure in not fully satisfying him; even though he claimed he didn't mind. And those times he loved it, and made us all the closer, as is something he would not allow many to do. Bit of a clean freak i think tis why. But he liked. No pain. yay I'm simply sharing the joy lol

[springfever]

Ps, 69 is a good idea, cept I loose focus on what I am doing...tend to get a lil too distracted hehe

[Thonger]

Originally Posted by springfever

... Bit of a clean freak i think tis why. But he liked. No pain. yay I'm simply sharing the joy lol

For what it's worth, I don't like BJs from my current partner, but I love BJs more than almost anything in the world from other partners. My current partner doesn't like giving it and I can feel that, and as a result, I don't like BJs from her. She's also scared of me cumming on her, or in her mouth, so that's another source of tension between us.

With other partners, I've absolutely loved BJs. If they have the right attitude and are having fun at it, I'm having fun. The absolute best BJs I ever had is when my partners are laughing and enjoying the feel of my cock in her mouth, and she is running her fingers all over my balls and asshole, and then when she asks or begs me to cum in her mouth or on her face, I just explode. My orgasm is that much better if she's licking, sucking, laughing and enjoying it even when I'm making a mess on her face or in her mouth. I don't think anyone can fake it when that's happening to her - you either like it or you don't. Those orgasms are so intense, I feel so much more obligated to return the favor and make her cum for the next 3 hours!

If your bj is a bit of a clean freak, that may be a clue as to why he doesn't like BJs. Maybe he doesn't like having his cum on himself or on his bed. Maybe try talking dirty to him and tell him to cum in your mouth so you can swallow every single drop. I'm not saying that's his problem, but it may be worth a try. I don't know of any guy who doesn't like BJs (if done right!).

If he likes your handjobs, but not BJs, then give him a handjob but keep your face very close to his cock. While stroking him, give him little kisses and licks all over his cock when he's not expecting it. You can try substituting your lips for your hands around his cock when he least expects it. Over time, you can use more of your mouth instead of your hands until it becomes a full BJ without him being conscious of it.

Good luck!