Not satisfied

[suki]

My boyfriend of two years recently told me he isn't satisfied with our sex life. I'm 21, he's 24. I've only had one partner before him. He had several.

He said he wants me to be more active and into it...

the problem is I'm not sure what he means and he isn't sure what he wants. He told me "don't they say that stuff in the woman magazines" But I don't read those.

Now I normally give him a blow or hand job before sex.

During sex I move my hips back and fourth. I also caress his body during sex.

I tried to read through some of the posts and stickies but I'm not too sure exactly what he means by "active and into it" he claims I just lay there and that's it. We've tried all different types of positions.

I read the "The Program" and a few of the other stickies about the blow jobs and hand jobs but does anyone have any tips on what I can do to be more "active" during sex?

I already asked him what he wants and he said he doesn't know.

[sexkitten05]

I was told the same thing by my ex, he would degrade how I would suck his dick, and told me countless times I was horrible and he had better, considering I was 20 and he was 25 when we met two and a half years ago. He was the first guy I went down on and I got fed up and we broke up. So overall don't feel bad, guys don't know how it is with girls and sex.

[EvilEvilKitten]

LOL more active eh? I hope he's ready for this - WickedWomanGroup - Go Get HIM, sister!!

BTW forget if he likes it, just make sure YOU like it and Go For It because that's really what he's asking for - he wants you to cut loose.

SOME girls, sexkitten - SOME girls. My reply to some guy complaining about my technique is to grrrowl at him, bare my fangs and pounce on his poor naked defenseless body and fuck him into the ground. They don't complain too much after that. For fear that I'll do it again.

[sexkitten05]

My ex would degrade me and try to get me to have a threesome with him and a mutual girl friend of ours so I could get "lessons".

[lnt1103]

Yeah, that's when you kick him in the head and tell him that if he thinks you need lessons he should get the hell out and find someone he thinks would be better.

I would agree with EEK, he's asking you to get assertive. Instead of following his lead all the time, TAKE the lead sometimes.

[sexkitten05]

Originally Posted by lnt1103

Yeah, that's when you kick him in the head and tell him that if he thinks you need lessons he should get the hell out and find someone he thinks would be better.

I would agree with EEK, he's asking you to get assertive. Instead of following his lead all the time, TAKE the lead sometimes.

Oh I did more than kick him the head, I kicked his ass and told him to go fuck himself.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Amazing how many people expect first timers to be experts at anything sexual. People sexual prowess doesn't just come naturally - you do have to pay attention and work at it.

[Pic]

pros are made not born...

[lnt1103]

We're all so different, we each have such different likes and dislikes, there's ALWAYS learning involved. If you're not willing to educate with understanding, patience and respect, you're better off just taking matters into your own hands(pun intended), because you're the only one that you'll find to be good enough.

[suki]

Thank you for your advice EvilEvilKitten and lnt1103! I will try to take the lead and see if that works for him! My only problem was he doesn't even know what he wants and he's not really into a lot of things...