Only for women with long-term partners

[mikkiji]

Yes, enthusiasm IS key for certain, but as we age, a few other ingredients are also necessary. Energy and endurance become increasingly important--that's where exercise and weight control come into play. Creativity and communication, while always important, take on even more central roles in lovemaking after many decades together. Trust, while it should ALWAYS have been present, assumes a greater role as well, because as we age and mature as couples, we often think of (or SHOULD be thinking of...!) new games and sex play to enjoy together, and trust is so necessary for introducing new practices, such as bondage, role-play, dress-up, etc. In addition to the above things we need, we need to abandon all pretense of inhibition, up-tightness, guilt and other blocks to enjoying one's physical and sexual universe.
Michael

[EvilEvilKitten]

Since each person is subtlely different each and every time - there's no need for 'extras' if you're paying attention. As you age, you might find some minor modifications work their way in but the need for enthusiasm never goes away. And you shouldn't even have any 'up-tightness' to begin with.

[msmoski]

well i dated my husband for seven years, and we got married last year. what i do for him sometime is put our couches together in the living room turn it into one giant sofa bed. put down some blankets turn down the lights, and we have sex, and sleep there for the night. its always good to dress up for ya man, try putting on one of his dress shirts with nothing else on.

[sarah_rsl]

I think routine gets a bad rep... I like routine in my sex life. Both my hubsand and I know that certain times during the week are set aside for sex, and neither of us will mess with those times unless we have a very good reason, which don't include headaches or just not feeling like it.

Also I'm a big believer in quid pro quo, both partners aren't neccessarily enjoy sex every time you have it. My husband hates shagging me when I've been drinking, I typically go out with mates every other week, and when I come back I'm typically quited drunk and gagging for a shag and expect my husand to do the business. Which he does and which he absolutly hates.

On the flip side I hate sex in the morning (expecially at stupid O' clock early) but once a week I wake up to being prepped to be pumped by hubby, it's actually my ambition to learn to sleep through it.

If at times the sex sounds unsexy there is loads of it and we are both completely satisfied sexually. I think this routine rather than doing any one thing is what keeps us sexually meshed.