Its Hard to Finish During a Handjob

[lnt1103]

Speaking as a formerly shy and inexperienced female, being with a more experienced male who's pressuring you can be intimidating. He wants it so bad, and he's already got so much more experience, one can be afraid of messing up, doing it wrong, appearing foolish, God forbid causing pain because of poor technique. First time he asked if I minded if he grabbed the lotion bottle during a hj, I had to ask him what I was supposed to do with it. He and his buddies reportedly had a good laugh behind my back.

First time I tried simultaneous hj's, it was so intense that not only did I stop my hand in place, but I inadvertently took a 'death grip' on....it. I couldn't focus on what my hand was doing, and well....I'm sure you've heard me say before that sometimes I need something to hold on to But I was incredibly embarrassed that I'd hurt him. Which can't help but set the tone for future, shall we say lessons.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Int - as soon as you found out that he and his buddies had a good laugh about your inexperience you should have dropped him.

Seriously, women, please do not think you have to 'take it' - ever. Begin a relationship as you mean to go on. Fairness and mutual respect should ALWAYS be part of the deal and if you do not get it - to hell with being intimidated - drop him and walk away. IF you stay - he will lose all respect for you and his treatment of you will only get worse each time to give him a 'free pass'. BTW and vice versa - if you treat him badly expect him to be gone.

[lnt1103]

You're right, hindsight, I should have. He's another one of those experiences that i value because it helped me figure out what I want and deserve.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by Brandye

In only two weeks you are lucky to be getting handjobs.

Yes indeed Brandye, you are right, but these are modern times. We are in an 'instant' world. One is reminded of the comedy series in uk called 'The Likely Lads' from about thirty years ago where girls were classified by Bob and Terry as 'Upstairs Outside' 'Upstairs Inside' Downstairs Outside' etc according to whether the lasses would allow feeling breasts outside, inside or whatever.
You have posed an interesting thought though Brandye; what are the modern expectations of male/female on first date, second date etc?????

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Int - as soon as you found out that he and his buddies had a good laugh about your inexperience you should have dropped him.

Seriously, women, please do not think you have to 'take it' - ever. Begin a relationship as you mean to go on. Fairness and mutual respect should ALWAYS be part of the deal and if you do not get it - to hell with being intimidated - drop him and walk away. IF you stay - he will lose all respect for you and his treatment of you will only get worse each time to give him a 'free pass'. BTW and vice versa - if you treat him badly expect him to be gone.

Wise wise words EEK

[EvilEvilKitten]

Mau - and there are women who will want to 'test' a fellow out before thinnking about a relationship with him but they are few and far between and usually older women.

[evilkrab1]

I'm afraid doc did nothing more than answer your question with wayyy more questions than you needed lol. But i have the same problem, and we've been together two YEARS. She gives blowjobs, but i was looking in this forum for a way to relax to cum more easily while getting a handjob- and YES- i return the favor for my girl. any help??

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why aren't you relaxing during manual?
Answer that and there's your answer!

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Mau - and there are women who will want to 'test' a fellow out before thinnking about a relationship with him but they are few and far between and usually older women.

Yes indeed, and even given my situation, I would have to LIKE a lady before entering into a relationship.

[EvilEvilKitten]

mau - I am fairly sure that an attractive woman wanting to get you into bed would find very little resistance.