How do I ask her to let me cum in her mouth?

[VanellaSchnella]

My gf doesnt like cum in her mouth so when she first told me I said I'd never make her do anything she didnt want to. But I want to do it sometimes? Is there a way I can ask her to do it as a favor on special occasions w/out making her upset?

[22much]

No not really. You can see if she will taste it but you will have to as well.

See you made a promise and if you now want to go back on it she is not likely to think highly of that.

You could ask if she would with a condom on and ask if you could finish in her mouth that way. some warming gel or liquid under the condom and it will feel like no condom. DO NOT use the lube under the condom if having intercourse it could come off at the wrong time.

[Ell]

Maybe you two could compromise and you could cum on her mouth, instead of in her mouth. I'm not sure if this would be as satisfying for a guy but its just a thought.

[dancingdoc2]

There is a difference between ejaculating in a mouth and the owner of the mouth ultimately swallowing the semen.

First of all, I would talk to her about all this. Communication is key to a successful relationship, sexual or otherwise.

Second, please read the article listed in the Index on this. There is a proper way to handle the force of an ejaculation and if this is really her concern and not the taste or some other reason, then there are a couple of simple techniques she can employ to accommodate you.

If wondering what to do with the ejaculate once it is in her mouth, she can simply deposit it into a tissue or wash cloth. No big deal.

So, learn what her objection is, explain what your desire is, and see if she is willing to learn more about the matter and then perhaps permit this. Ultimately, the decision is hers and you must live with it.

[lisa4daz]

i agree with 22 much sorry 2 say.. now uv made a promise it could potentially do more damage than gd, jus cos uv had a change of heart as she could get upset and disappointed that u would be keen 2 break a promise that u made to her.
however on another level maybe there is a halfway point?
i hate the taste of cum personally.. however i will satisfy my partner by letting him cum in my mouth.. i just dont swallow, an he is more than satisfied with that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, you can't.

She'll wonder "didn't you listen to me or is it just because you think your desires are more important then mine?"

She'll start talking to you about respect and how you don't have any for her.

Think about if she wanted to you to use a strap-on up your ass - would you be upset if you had told her no before and yet she kept on asking...as a special treat?

[LustyLisa]

This is one of the instances that you have to decide what's more important, pushing your desires onto her or respecting your girlfriend. Personally for me and my relatinship, once something is discussed and either I or he has said "NO", then repeated requests are considered disrespectful. In this case, my husband would say something like" I'd really like to cum in your mouth but I understand and respect your feelings I just wanted you to know just in case you ever change your mind!" No pressure, no demands. Boundaries should be reviewed and assessed from time to time but in no way should be disrespected. You need to be willing and free to express your desires but when your desires involve another person, then you have no choice but to accept where they are on the issue. For the record, I don't give BJ's. If I'm feeling like giving him pleasure, it's all hands because the taste and smell ejaculate makes me sick to my stomach and sets of days of GI upset. I don't like it and never will like it. If he can't live and love me unconditionally within my limits and boundaries then we'd have a serious compatibilty issue and best seek love and sexual fullfilment eslwhere. If this is a pivotal issue for you then you've really got a bigger discision to make than you think.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

No, you can't.

She'll wonder "didn't you listen to me or is it just because you think your desires are more important then mine?"

She'll start talking to you about respect and how you don't have any for her.

Think about if she wanted to you to use a strap-on up your ass - would you be upset if you had told her no before and yet she kept on asking...as a special treat?

Excellent point EEK. A promise is a promise. So to break it for a sexual aspect is a sure-fire indicator that more promises will be broken.

[Gibson52]

That is obviously an unreasonable request for her to perform. I would not press it if you want to keep her. Maybe it will happen one of these nights...one of these crazy old nights!
However if you wish to continue to be un-reasonable. Bring home $1000 in cash (10 one hundred dollar bills) and make her an indecent proposal for one special time. Put the money in her hands, and make your wish. At least she'll know how much this means to you even if she says no again..just take the $ back to the bank and be glad you still have it. Now you can spend it on her slowly for nice things that she would like..clothes, meals, travel..a gift. Thats almost 2 car payments or a chunk of credit card debt paid off. She'd know you wouldn't be doing this often so maybe she might with times as tough as they are. A boyfriend willing to donate to a good cause for something extra that his girlfriend does not want to do. Who knows?? At least your not considering this outside of your relationship. Thats a good thing.

[VanellaSchnella]

Thanks for the responses. I definitely do not put cumming in a girls mouth ahead of my relationship with my girlfriend. I love her for her. There is no way I'd ever want to do anything to damage my relationship with her. Actually what brought this whole thing up was she was giving me head then switched to hand job and I was moving into a period in which I knew I would come in the next minute or two... so she went back down to give me more head when I gently spanked her and said shed be in for an unpleasant suprise if she did that. But just the the thought of it was so appealing... Either way half the appeal of cumming in a girls mouth for me is them liking it. So I'm just going to give it up.. who knows maybe shell just do it one day. Doubt it but oh well.

Sidenote: somepeople on here always say to make sure the other person returns the favor. Well I always have her juices on my tounge and lips and running down my chin but I like doing that too much to hold out anyway. And when I say juices I mean floods..sorry for the imagery