Bad/Boring in Bed?

[shoegal]

From a guy's point of view, what makes a girl bad or boring in bed? Is it just lack of enthusiasm or being body conscience? No guy is going to tell you to your face, and I never want to give them anything negative to talk about

[dlb]

I would tell you to your face, but I am not like many guys you might meet. Enthusiasm is important, but more important is how you channel your enthusiasm. Don't make, or allow, your partner to do all the work. Be attentive to how your partner reacts to everything you do and learn from experience. Don't be afraid to ask for verbal feedback.

Read the posts on this forum. Read the articles on the site....and practice

[YHeloThar]

I'm sure someone is going to spit on my list as a man's own failings, but here it is, and I am a fairly sought after guy that can be choosey:

-Not making noises.

-Just lying there like a dead fish + Not using kegels in positions where it would feel good (i.e.: missionary).

-Difficult to bring to orgasm ESPECIALLY if there's no obvious reward (i can forgive a little bit of effort requirement if she's going to show that it had an earth shattering impact but otherwise she's going back in the sea). In practice I have noticed this in the case with girls that later turned out to be lesbians, girls with an abnormally tiny clitoris, and girls that act like they're just watching themselves having sex lazily.



Thing with my list and pretty much any list about girls, it's not like penis size where there's nothing that can really be done about it, so I feel a lot less forgiving. Every girl can make her pussy tight if she wants using kegels, any girl can smile and make noises to either get herself more into it or demonstrate that she is really into it. And i'm only partially convinced that there is a significant chunk of the population medically incapable of an orgasm - I can appreciate that maybe since the days of men deciding how much sex was going on that maybe the female orgasm was unneccessary for a lot of women, but I think these frigid women just need therapy or something.

[EvilEvilKitten]

What makes a woman bad/boring in bed are the same things that make a man bad/boring in bed to wit:

1. Being selfish - "it is all about me and my pleasure. Nothing about you and yours."

2. Not 'listening' to your partner's body.

3. Not participating. (The 'dead fish'.)

4. Not reciprocating. (taking but not giving)

[YHeloThar]

yeah not reciprocating, that's a good one. nothing worse than the girl who wants to be able to tell her friends "it was all about me". or one that just plain doesn't want to go down on you or something like that.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by shoegal

From a guy's point of view, what makes a girl bad or boring in bed? Is it just lack of enthusiasm or being body conscience? No guy is going to tell you to your face, and I never want to give them anything negative to talk about

Bad or Boring-

* Cock teaser
* Not covering her teeth with her lips when stimulating a guy orally
* Not communicating how she is responding to his caresses and for what she needs now/next
* Won't let her man see her naked and/or must have the lights off
* Won't caress him
* Won't learn how to
* Bad breath
* Not fresh
* Not engaging
* Appearing disinterested
* Impatient
* Inflexible
* Intolerant
* Won't touch or recriprocate

...for starters....

[kevjam]

i think it goes beyond the dead fish. i like a women who has an interest in exploring. if you do the same ole routine all the time its gonna get boring. also a women who initiates sex. put on some candles and some sexy lingere. suprise me, ya know, show me that i turn you on and that you want me as much as i want you. also, LEARN, very inportant to know what your doing(this goes for you too guys) having a good technique in what ever your doing whether your riding him ,rubing, oral what ever. know what he likes and ask him to do the same. knowing what your partner likes and learning about it is a huge plus. be open and talk to your partner during sex and after. talk about what got you hot and ask your partner the same after you had sex. never just role over and go to sleep

[lnt1103]

YH--Sounds like if it takes more than a snap of your fingers to shatter her world, she 'goes back in the sea'. So, not only is she required to massage your.....self, shall we say (and don't read that wrong, I believe reciprocation is a necessary part of it and should be so)....but she must also live up to the standard you have set for the massage of your ego? You seem to do plenty well with ego massage on your own.

But then who am I kidding? You still think penis size has something to do with it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

kevjam - that you think sex could ever be boring just shows that you yourself are not paying attention. Sex, even with the same partner over many years, is subtly different each and every time. You do not need candles, lingerie, toys, whatever - really you don't.

All you need to really do is to pay attention and appreciate the nuances of sex.

Oh, and doc - some men enjoy a bit of teeth in their fellatio.

[kevjam]

ok i guess i worded that poorly. forget about all that and have fun