What to do?

[helpmepleasse]

I was just told by my male partner that I need to be doing more during sex, but he wont tell me what all I should be doing. Anyone have any suggestions on what he may be expecting with a male on top position?

[aili8447]

Have you checked the positions section on the website. That might help you to learn how to move.

[weasel]

just bruse throguh this site and you will find something

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by helpmepleasse

I was just told by my male partner that I need to be doing more during sex, but he wont tell me what all I should be doing. Anyone have any suggestions on what he may be expecting with a male on top position?

Well, one can learn by experimenting, but sometimes it takes a long time and you may not even get to the end of the road. I think he might give you a clue of some sort. good luck.

[dancingdoc2]

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Originally Posted by helpmepleasse

I was just told by my male partner that I need to be doing more during sex, but he wont tell me what all I should be doing. Anyone have any suggestions on what he may be expecting with a male on top position?

Well, it is very important for young couples especially to know and understand that making love and having sex is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other. Secondly, a relationship is a cooperative partnership and a key factor is being able and willing to communicate about all manner of issues or problems.**

* Before you can know what he wants, he has to convey some information about what he would like for you do do.

* Before we can help you and your relationship, we have to know what he believes is missing.

Is the missing link as simple as matching his stroking movements with hip elevating movements? Is it that he wants you to raise your hips and hold them up toward him as he thrusts? Is it that you lay there like a passive player? Is it that he would like you to whisper sweet nothings in his ear or moan and groan? WHAT? Years ago Freud exclaimed: "Women, what is it that they want?" Today, you need your boyfriend to help you help him. (Also, be aware that some guys are not very expressive, so you may have to work to dig out the information.)

Please get back to us with more information and we'll be happy to work with you on this matter. I also recommend that you go to the Index and begin reading the many articles listed there. Knowledge is empowering.

** Lastly, explore and learn together in partnership.

[Brandye]

He likely does not KNOW what you should be doing. Nor what he should be doing, for that matter. Get a copy of the Joy of Sex and you two work through it page by page. That should satisfy him.

In the meantime, the next time he starts to mount you: TAKE CHARGE! Flip him on his back, stick your tongue in his belly button and give him a tongue bath from there to his coccyx bone. Of course, it is appropriate to expect reciprocity when you flip your leg over his neck and lower yourself onto him.

No way to get pregnant doing this.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Find read and then do the sticky post entitled The Program here on this site.

[kinky_kellie]

Well if HE thinks you need to do more - he should be the one telling you what he wants, not just expect you to mind read.
Ask him, its not hard, you both need to communicate to each other.

[EvilEvilKitten]

TSK, the heck with him - use him for YOU want.

You could also surprise/scare him by using some of the things from here: www.wickedwomangroup.us

[Lonewolfajk]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

TSK, the heck with him - use him for YOU want.

You could also surprise/scare him by using some of the things from here: www.wickedwomangroup.us

I read through the site, being kindof interested myself, and I gotta say I would be pretty damn turned on if a girl did half that stuff lol. I think its a huge turn on when a girl expresses her induviduality and shows that she has a voice and desires of her own. Too many women are just quiet, playing the mindreader games ><