What Can I Do?

[thinkyougotme]

So my current sex partner is very quiet and shy recently I found out he like anal sex(me doing it to him) He wants me to be creative and try new things he says he wants me to do things that are not normal all he says is I don't want no pain inflected sex. so I need some help what can I do to blow his mind. I love hardcore sex and so does he but it is starting to get old and boring so ...We have done evrything from anal sex toys role playing golden showers I am just like what eles can I do that wont inflect pain

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index lists links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to articles.

Here is one that will help with your concern:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage

This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

There is so much the two of you can do. Please do your homework by reading the articles listed in the Index. After that, pick up the book "The Joy of Sex" at your library or local bookseller.

Anal does not need to include intercourse. More often than not anal play is just that--fingers and dildos. Before you engage in anal stimulation, read the article on it as well as all the others listed in the Index and discuss what you have learned. Then apply what you have learned and expand upon what you are already doing using this new information.

If you decide to try anal intercourse, the article will explain how to go about it safely and without discomfort. However, having said that, read the part about there being a fine line between pain and pleasure. He may just change his mind regarding pain.

I believe if you learn how to make out in all of its progressive stages, and work together in partnership, understanding that making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other, that you will find a new appreciation for what you already do.

[thinkyougotme]

We Love the anal stimulation both him and I he just wants to explore new things but he donsent have the confidence to tell me what so its more of a guessing game to me.....

[dancingdoc2]

I'll say this again: Making love is not what we do to one another, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together. You'll find what works and what does not, what is enjoyable and what is not. Now, go experiment.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Boring?!?!Sex with him is BORING?!?!?

THEN YOU'RE NOT DOING IT RIGHT

Sex is a conflagration of souls and a glorious reaffirmation of life!
Even with the same partner for 30, 40, 50 years.

The fact may very well be that the 'hardcore' quality of your sexual practice may have dulled your senses and you keep going further along this path because what once thrilled no longer does. Hence the constant search for something 'new'.

But superb sex is a dance of nuances between partners who are in themselves 'moving targets'.
Who you are today is not the same person you were 6 months ago or the same person you will be 6 months from now.

Think of sex as the ultimate in non-verbal communication.

Find, read, then do the two sticky posts entitled The Program and Body Worship. Learn to 'listen' to your bodies. Learn how to 'speak' with your bodies. Frankly, toys and positions and lingerie (etc) - none of that matters and none of it 'works'.

Discovering all of the hidden facets of your/his desires with nothing more than what you were born with - that is what works.

[Libidogurl]

Exploring together is the most possible solution for your problem, try watching some porn movies together to get some new ideas, you can both by a libido booster I'm sure when both of you are too arouse new ideas will come and much wilder than before.