Fat & On Top

[vickyl702]

Im not huge but I have excess weight on me. I have never ridden a guy due to the fact that Im self-conscious of my weight, scared of being "too heavy" and just not knowing what to do, how to do it. I tried once and got off before he was even inside of me.

My boyfriend (we havent had sex yet) loves to be ridden and asks why I wont do it. I finally came clean and told him. During phone sex, he always mentions me riding him. I really want to please him and just at least say I tried.

Is this common, for a female to not feel comfortable? To feel like you'll look like an idiot and not know what to do? Or is it just easier than it appears?

[dlb]

He likes it. He wants it, from you. Just climb aboard and do it. Since he already knows what he likes just remind him you aren't sure how and allow him to guide you. Don't feel dumb. It is actually exciting to allow your partner to teach you how to please him and then become very good at it. I could give you some tips on moves, but you should search the threads on the forum about woman on top as there are many.

Woo hoo!!! Ride'im cowgirl!

[wet_suit_one]

Amen DLB!

Don't be so self conscious. You boyfriend loves your body. Let him watch it in motion as you ride him into the sunset. He'll love it.

[Brandye]

Weight is one of the greatest limits we impose upon ourselves - in sex and the rest of life. There would be much for you to be gained with a prudent loss.

You got two great bits of advice from men!

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to articles. Please read them; knowledge is empowering. There are several articles for the first-timer. The other articles help make a couple's love life just that much better!

I find the reactions of men and women curious. When we fall for a person, we tend to fall hook, line, and sinker, including the parts as yet unseen. If a guy likes your body, he will like it uncovered, also.

Please click on the Home page link and then have a look at the sexual positions section and go to the Cowgirl illustrations. All the illustrations are animated! so you can get an instant lesson on each of them as to how to move. Very few positions of whatever composition have a person actually sitting with his/her full weight upon the partner.

The Cowgirl or Woman Superior position is great for first time intercourse because it places the women in complete control.
* She knows where P & V are and can deftly bring the two together possibly saving her man some initial embarrassment
* She can position the penis against the hymen or between it and the vaginal wall in order to make penetration easier (If the hymen has eroded away, this may not be important)
* She can set the angle of penetration
* She can apply just the right amount of pressure to make insertion more comfortable--or remove it if need be
* She can govern the speed and the depth of penetration
* She determines the speed and rate of stroking

While you hold all the important cards, your man can hold your breasts and support them, fondle your nipple(s) and areola(s), and continue to hold and caress your body.

Do use plenty of lubrication, and this means on his penis/condom, also. Even if you are very wet, this does not mean that the mucus has been adequately distributed around the vaginal opening, so do this and lubricate his penis, first and foremost.

DO NOT have intercourse unless he is wearing a condom, you are using the pill or some other form of highly reliable contraceptive, AND, you have a third line of defense--vaginal spermicide. Do not use a lubricated condom, they don't work well.

> Is this common, for a female to not feel comfortable? To feel like you'll look like an idiot and not know what to do? Or is it just easier than it appears?

Anybody, male or female, can have and often do have apprehensions. Not to worry. Explore and learn together; know and understand that it takes practice and some time before the two of you get good at all this.

Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other and in partnership. The first few times a couple makes love, even if one or both have previous experience, there is a learning curve or an adjustment period as the two learn how to work together. Do not expect and then be disappointed if the first time did not go as planned or with the expected results. It should be enough that the two of you were together and expressing your love. Spend the rest of your days working on "perfection".

I just read your other thread and it seems that you have had intercourse with other people. Even if a person is not a virgin, "first time intercourse" also applies to the first time you and your partner team up.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Poor body image is VERY common in women to the point where men are SICK of it!

Next, instead of doing this because HE wants you to - think of it as YOU taking control and him having no choice but to lie there and take it like a man whether he wants to or not.

Few things cure poor body image faster than a touch of feminine sexual aggression. Let your Inner Tigress out to play!

My fitness program iss "don't eat & fuck like crazy" - it works too. You might want to try it.

[illeashu]

i feel you got lots of wise advice already, if its being heavy thats holding you back, ok so you could hurt him, hes a big boy, tell the paramedics he was trespassing, you grabbed him tore off his clothes and jumped on him, teach him to think big girls cant stick up for themselves, dare him to tell his friends, youll show them too, youll do it to everyone one of them that come sneaking in, on a duller note, if you are too heavy, he will turn red, then gasp, and before long likely blow up, its prudent to call the paramedics at this point, or they will think you planned this, dont try to toss the apartment into the trash, they keep a good eye on that, and exploded bodies among apartments being tossed into trash is becoming too common for them to ignore this new way of exploring sexual appetites, on a yet duller note, ( trying to dull it down really ) your fear may come from the plethera of crap you watch on tv, and hear in the media, commercials, save this coupon for free liposuction, or take this gel internally, and when it comes out if its red you are sated to be fat, but they can help, a new breakthrough can make you normally thin, crap is what it is i say, if you are heavy, its cause people around you keep losing weight in your vicinity, and you dont want it to just go away, so you gather it about, like a packrat sort of, but not actively, i mean you dont go about looking to carry the weight of the world, its just a thing you do, i collect girlfriends, sull down again, maybe you fear ot for some other reason, you need to share, but dont know how, we did away with the exploding problem, just tell them he was trespassing, as for the heavy, he's already accepted that, maybe you dont want to be dominant, you would prefer and man take charge, maybe you feel too smart, and you would ruin him, he wont be smart enough to be any good after you enspell him, ( just tossing ideas out there) and so you dont feel right enslaving him to desire you, oh oh what if you are experiencing some kind of plane transferrence, some alien out there is scared, and its using your fear to power its ship ( naaaaahhh ) maybe you feel he wont please you as much as you want, and so you dont want to ruin it, but i think if you can get past the weight you might find the courage to try it, thats the big deal there, what if you have him lay on his back on the edge of the bed, feet on the floor, and you straddle him, he could easily share of its ok to put more weight on him, or backoff, thats way you can get a sort of sex numbered ratio, like its ok to bounce up and down on him, while hes awake, but you cant fall asleep on him when hes asleep that sort of thing, i hope that helps a little, if not lets duscuss it

[EvilEvilKitten]

ill - sentences, girl, sentences!

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

ill - sentences, girl, sentences!

lol ILL apparently be a boy

[EvilEvilKitten]

Whatever. Still needs to write correctly.