Likes being touched during intercourse

[ally.kat]

This guy I am crazy about likes having his penis touched during intercourse and I feel like an idiot, not knowing exactly what I am supposed to do. Can anyone elaborate on what exactly I am supposed to be doing (in missionary and/or doggy style) in terms of touching or feeling his penis. Everytime I think about this, my mind wanders to twister....

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Here is one good answer to your question:

> I feel like an idiot, not knowing exactly what I am supposed to do.

Ask him what he likes, would like you to do, when and where. No foolin'.

Each of us, male and female, masturbate in essentially the same ways for each gender, yet there are as many variations to the theme as there are people. The same thing for making love. Intercourse involves in part, stroking and thrusting, pelvic thrusts for the man, etc. What works when is based in large part by what he is feeling in the moment. This then dictates what to do to feel good in response.

None of us are mind readers. When masturbating we all benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate our movements and make minor midcourse corrections. This is lost when we turn the reins over to a lover--so, communication which is the cornerstone of any successful relationship comes into play. During lovemaking and intercourse we need to let our partner know how we are responding to his/her caresses and for what we need now/next. This "feedback" is done using verbal and/or non-verbal communications.

Encourage him (or simply ask) to show you or to tell you how best to touch his penis when he wants your caress. Making love is a teem effort, a partnership; it is not what one person does to the other, rather, what we do with and for each other.

This is not unlike when either you or he wants the other to give a hand job. I have long recommended that the person demonstrate how they do it and then to take the others hand and guide their movements over the course of a few sessions until they learn to mimic how they do it. Feedback is then provided along the route.

Only your boyfriend knows what he likes where and when, and, this will change moment to moment and session to session. The same holds true for you with him.

> This guy I am crazy about likes having his penis touched during intercourse

He may want the base of the shaft stroked while he moves in and out. He may want the shaft squeezed. He may want you to stroke the shaft or rub the glans in between sets of stroking. He may want his scrotum fondled and/or scratched. I suggest sitting down together at a time when the two of you are not about to "get it on" and discuss all this. If you want, ask him to show you so that when the time comes there won't be an interruption in the heat of passion.

> Every time I think about this, my mind wanders to twister.

Please do not make this into a big deal. Work together and have fun in the process. Have a "show and tell" session or two and go from there!

I hope this is of help. Please feel free to ask other questions when they arise.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Twister - yep!

Just reach on down and give him a caress or two - no big deal - help him insert his penis even.

[Brandye]

Listen to BadCat - I always guide them in.