Riding him

[GirlNamedJoey]

I have always refrained from being on top during sex. I've always felt inhibited and self conscious when it comes to it. It's frustrating!!! And it makes me feel like a shy little virgin.

Anyone out there with advice or tips for someone that really wants to do this, (and do it well) I would appreciate it and so would my boyfriend.

[Ephemera]

You can watch the 3D animations on the main website. Those hopefully will give you a better idea.

And there's nothing wrong with playing shy. Some guys love the ingenue.

But on the other hand, don't be afraid to take charge, throw him on the bed, and use him for your own pleasure. Guys love that, too.

[coveresid]

What works well is what feels good to you. So once you move into position experiment with different motion and when you find what feels good, then just do that for awhile. I'm sure your boyfriend will be more than happy to help you both learn what to do. It may take you many different times of practicing. The fact you are willing to try different positions will turn him on. A shy lover not willing to try anything new is really boring and not a turn on. If it doesn't end up being a favorite position, so what, just trying new positions is exciting.

[GirlNamedJoey]

I'm definitely not a one position pony. Variety is the spice of life. Just this position for some reason. Ugh!!!

[glazedonut]

i understand being shy about being on top, having been there and done that myself. if you are willing to try, though, he will be more than willing to help you learn. what helped me with it was words of affirmation. my boyfriend told me how much he loved it, and kept telling me it felt good and that i was doing great. talk to him about maybe giving you some encouragement verbally while you're trying being on top. just remember though, it's not all about him. not being a "one position pony" (which made me laugh btw) you know the advantages to switching it up. try to be on top for a little bit and then change to something you're really comfortable with, then change back. the more you do it, the more comfortable you will become with it, but you should try it and learn it on your own comfort level and time.

[Dbondjuk]

You could try the reverse cowgirl. It's basically riding him, but you face the other direction. Perhaps that could work your nerves up a lot more to actually face him? I know that the reverse cowgirl feels really good to me, maybe he will like it a lot. It just depends on how you two like to have sex. If its intimate and you like to see each other and kiss each other then you might not like this, but try it out.

[sweetnothings]

I love being on top! I don't think he will complain, there's no wrong way to do it. Plus it makes it a lot easier for the woman to be in control, I can come so quickly this way multiple times, it's my favorite!

[wet_suit_one]

Giddyyap little doggie! It's just that easy!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Either scrub back and forth or use your knees as a pivot and move 'up and forward' then 'down and back' and repeat - you can also alternate between the two - doesn't matter as they both work. It is actually easier if he does NOT move btw. You can use the bedsprings to help sustain the motion as well.

[Rouge]

I actually had the same issue until this weekend! I'd avoided being on top, but had reached a point where even I wanted to ride him. It took a min or two to figure out, but was wicked fun once I got the hang of it. Definitely go for it, there isn't much to lose.