My man wants a threesome...help

[peach6969]

hi everyone
i'm new around here but i've read alot of the posts and alot of u guys seem super nice and helpful so i'm gonna ask for everyones help today and hope u guys and gals can give me ur personal opinions


So recently my man has found an interest in having a threesome...i am not very fond of the idea not because i think its bad or anything but i just don't like the idea of sharing my man with another women.

So does this make me a bad gf?

I don't know what to do physically or emotionally

Let me know what you guys think

Thank you so much in advance

[weasel]

Originally Posted by peach6969

hi everyone
i'm new around here but i've read alot of the posts and alot of u guys seem super nice and helpful so i'm gonna ask for everyones help today and hope u guys and gals can give me ur personal opinions


So recently my man has found an interest in having a threesome...i am not very fond of the idea not because i think its bad or anything but i just don't like the idea of sharing my man with another women.

So does this make me a bad gf?
no, not at all
I don't know what to do physically or emotionally

Let me know what you guys think
well, fist thing is, like most sexual acts, if you don't want to then don't, also threesomes tend to ruin relationships (there are exceptions but this is a general rule, and if your boyfriend can't get over that you don't want to then it wasn't made to be, so my advice to you is tell him that you don't want.
Thank you so much in advance

i hope i helped and good luck

[arutha]

It needs to be something that both people want, and both people need to actively seek. It most certainly is not for everyone, so your best bet is to just tell him you don't want to, and tell him why. He will have to keep it as just a fantasy.

There is nothing wrong with your reasoning, my girlfriend thinks the same way. She doesn't want to share me with another woman, and I know I wouldn't want to share her with another man either.

[Brandye]

If you do a search and read many threads you will find many want this. On the other hand, those who have paint a different picture.

You have a decision to make - what are your personal limits?

[madeye]

you already answered your own question "I don't want to share my man" So don't.

If that was your first reaction it simply a bad idea that wont get better.

at this point the topic is a can of worms that should be sealed shut.

Tell him to use his imagination and masturbate the fantasy away.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Have you discussed this with him? You don't want to share. Fine. Then don't. But you may want to start looking for another boyfriend. It is not just threesomes that wreck relationships. Although you do not have to justify your decision, why don't you want to share? Apparently he doesn't mind sharing you. How do you feel about that?

[peach6969]

thanks so much everyone...i really appreciate the questions you brought up..it helped me understand what i really want and i made my decision to tell him that its something i'm not into....but again i really appreciate all your help.

[Wahoowa]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Have you discussed this with him? You don't want to share. Fine. Then don't. But you may want to start looking for another boyfriend. It is not just threesomes that wreck relationships. Although you do not have to justify your decision, why don't you want to share? Apparently he doesn't mind sharing you. How do you feel about that?

i disagree. since he's not asking for a MMF, it seems more like he wants his and then some, rather than to share her. ask him if he'd want a threesome with another guy...then you'll know the extent to which he'd actually "share" you.

[EvilEvilKitten]

wahoowa - he'd be sharing her with another woman which is different than sharing her with a man but it is sharing nevertheless. Personally I enjoy non-bisexual threesomes but if she does not want to, she does not have to.