I can't be on top...

[QB23]

Well, I'm about 20 years old... & every time that i have tried to be on top I cant. I get either nervous or who knows. because I cant get the right motion. As krazy as this might sound is there anyway I can get some training for this?? Maybe because he is large its hard... graphic content====> its thick & well, large so it doesn't flow. or maybe its because I've gained some weight... I think its a big problem because I don't want him to think I'm lazy. What should i do? How can i learn??

[a-bit-shy]

Is it a physical thing or a psychological thing for you? If it is a case of being worried that your partner will think you aren't very good or that you are self-conscious that you don't know what to do, ask your partner for help. He can help to guide you. It can be very comforting to ask for help. He can show you and while he is doing so, he should be very sensitive and supportive. It can be a really exciting experience. I also know what it feels like to be nervous about your weight. There was a time a couple of years ago that I had gained a little weight and wasn't comfortable being on top. You have to keep in mind that you bf is with you cus of you and not what you weigh. You will get past this when you gain your confidence back. You can always try dimming the lights until you get it back. That may help you to get past your insecurities.

[sera300]

Seach the forums there are plenty of threads on the same issue...

[demonbuttercup]

try here
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[EvilEvilKitten]

You could take horseback riding lessons using a close contact saddle. The motion you use "posting" when trotting is the SAME motion you use when on top of a man. The exercise will also help you lose weight as well as gain confidence in handling large animals.

[xoxo2]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You could take horseback riding lessons using a close contact saddle. The motion you use "posting" when trotting is the SAME motion you use when on top of a man. The exercise will also help you lose weight as well as gain confidence in handling large animals.

I've been an equestrian for 16 years of my life and believe it or not. She's right, the same motions you use while horseback riding are the same you use in bed. Also, horse back riding can really strengthen your leg muscles and that helps in bed as well. Not to mention it can be a really big confidence booster for some, if you can make a horse do what you want. Then think about the things you can make a man do

[hogiennikki]

i agree with evilevilkitten....try horse back riding ....you use the same strides on a horse you do being on top of you partner..

[adcutey]

horse back riding huh? very interesting...

I was also very nervous about being on top, but my partner guided me through the motions that felt good to him and through that I was able to find what worked for me too. Of course, practice makes perfect!! FYI- he's also on the larger side.

[demonbuttercup]

Also can try a way I used to masturbate anyhow.
You get on your knees (sitting upright), spread apart like you were straddling something.
Then you insert 2 fingers, palm up, w/ like the heel of your hand pressed against the clit.
Then you just put your body weight on yoru hand...and basically just hump your hand lol.... that might give you an idea of the rhythm and motion that you enjoy.

I am pretty sure a guy is going to enjoy any kind of motion. My b/f can last forever when I am on top... mostly b/c of course I am not pumping as hard and fast as he would if he was in control....

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfortunately the motions that please one guy when atop him, will not always please another. Different guys require different inputs to get the proper results. Experiment! I do so love experimenting, myself, and apparently the men don't seem to mind the attention.