"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage

[madeye]

I remember a week before I first started expirementing with an anal toy my gf tried to massage my prostate with her finger, and I recoiled instantly and loudly proclaimed I didnt like it.

However I felt for more comfortable expirementing on my own.

So this is a unique way to introduce him to anal play. Buy a small butt plug under the premise that its for yourself. This of course does mean you have to try it, but if you dont like it who cares you only have to say that once right? and if your trying it first without shame its kind of a follow the leader mentality.

Now you leave the toy in his possesion and give him a month of the same old boring masturbation and allow his privacy and curiosity to do the rest.

Dont bring it up or ask to use it on him, or use any toys at all. Then after some time has passed bust out all your toys as if your going to have a sex party and this is your opportunity to grab the butt plug and ask him if he would like to try it.

I believe a portion of straight guys are far more afraid of people knowing they stick toys in their ass than they are of actually sticking a toy up there. Once they can act in the cover of secrecy the pleasure they will discover should destroy most of their bashfull insecurities.


Its just a weird vulnerable like act for a some straight men and team work is not always the best approach some paths simply need to be started alone.

[Bassic]

I agree with madeye. I am enjoying using a messager (vibrating at that). I lube it, put it in and lay down on my bed. I wait about 10 minutes (the prostate seems to enjoy it more the longer it has contact with it) then lightly stroke the shaft a few times, fluid comes out in a steady stream, followed by an intense orgasm, which is then followed by another orgasm. I can then remove the messager and actually masterbate 2 minutes later, and have another strong orgasm. thats 3 orgasms in 10 minutes or less. No man can honestly say no to that. However I would die if my friends found out about it. I'm not even gunna tell my current gf yet. Its too early in our relationship to tell her such a potentially demasculiating (culturally) thing. The sexual stigma's run deep in our culture for both genders. I personally believe that the prostate is something we have evolved to use to have better sex. just because I enjoy it doesnt mean I would want a male to do it to me. There and only there, is the sexual difference between a straight man and a gay man

[madeye]

Originally Posted by Bassic

I agree with madeye. I am enjoying using a messager (vibrating at that). I lube it, put it in and lay down on my bed. I wait about 10 minutes (the prostate seems to enjoy it more the longer it has contact with it) then lightly stroke the shaft a few times, fluid comes out in a steady stream, followed by an intense orgasm, which is then followed by another orgasm. I can then remove the messager and actually masterbate 2 minutes later, and have another strong orgasm. thats 3 orgasms in 10 minutes or less. No man can honestly say no to that. However I would die if my friends found out about it. I'm not even gunna tell my current gf yet. Its too early in our relationship to tell her such a potentially demasculiating (culturally) thing. The sexual stigma's run deep in our culture for both genders. I personally believe that the prostate is something we have evolved to use to have better sex. just because I enjoy it doesnt mean I would want a male to do it to me. There and only there, is the sexual difference between a straight man and a gay man

Well I would suggest to you, that when you get to a point in the relationship where sex gets a little boring its time to have the "kinky sex" talk.

Just sit down with your gf and discuss new things for the two of you to try. Bring up all the kinky things couples do like Roleplay, dirty talk, toys and exct...

My logic is that discussing a bunch of different kinky things about sex would protect you from her having a negative reaction to the idea of you enjoying anal play. Hopefully she will get the image that your just an open minded kinky guy that loves having sex with her, instead of having a negative (and ignorant) response of "are you a homo".

You don't need to declare your sexuality to anyone, people want to be close minded about male anal play let them. If they push their negative opinion on your open minded sex life simply tell them that within their own logic they are implying that when they masturbate, they like touching a mans cock and are just as gay as yourself... then laugh as they stumble to respond.