me on top?

[julyisthebest]

My bf and i have a great sex life. for the 1st few years though I was mostly on top and after much disscusion he has been changing things up for me and we try new stuff all the time. the down fall in that is that even though i love having him on top or usually doing the majority of the giving i feel like i am slacking in returning the favor now. I have to admit that in pleasing him i have perfected how he likes to recieve oral sex, but i lack very much in the "me on top area" I was never really good at it i believe and i think he usually wanted me on top because he was being, for lack a better word "lazy". Now i want to please him more and I tried the other day, to be on top,(again after trying to avoid it for the past while) and i just can't do it. I don't feel at all that it feels good for both of us. (i get nervous and can't find my rythm) I feel like I am dissapointing him. I'll ask for help and he doesn't seem to know how to help. I have never been able to move my hips correctly. i give more of the "up and down" motion and he would love the "back and forth" motion. HOW DO YOU DO IT? how are ladies able move their butts and hips in that way? Does anyone have any tips or excersizes that I could learn. My confidence is so lacking in that area and I have a passion to be good at it. after hearing stories of him and his ex,[stories we shared before we started dating and engaging in a sexual relationship]. I guess its kind of in my head that can't be as good at it as she was. (my own personal issue I suppose.) I would love to impress him since he has tried new things for me. I will admit that it is harder now since he has gained some weight since we have been together, but i can't believe that has a lot to do with it. So any ideas and thoughts would be appercaited.
Thank you!

[dancingdoc2]

> HOW DO YOU DO IT?

Sit on him, rather than to squat or kneel. When you sit on him you can rock your behind back and forth and/or side-to-side. Use his pubic mound and your hands on him or the mattress for support and leverage if necessary.

The Woman Superior does much more for the woman than for the man in my never to be so humble opinion. So, that he is not as pleasured by it is normal.

Is he complaining about how the two of you "engage" while on top? If not, then do not worry about what not be a problem for him.

[Cleveland]

Try straddling him with facing away--your butt toward his face. The visual experience for him--watching himself go in and out of you--could be highly stimulating.

[James77]

My wife just started to do the on top thing for me.I use to be the one who was alway's on top and pretty much controled thing's.Now that she has figured how to be on top and enjoy it for herself and me, that's all she want's to do.Of which of course I don't mind at all.You'll figure it out.Just do what feel's good to you and I'm sure he will enjoy it.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by Cleveland

Try straddling him with facing away--your butt toward his face. The visual experience for him--watching himself go in and out of you--could be highly stimulating.

I 2nd that opinion.

[Kittykat21]

I dont have that much experience with sex but I love to be on top because I feel i have control!

[browneyedgirl]

I have the exact same problem. I'm pretty flexible and pretty slim, but me on top just doesn't feel good for either of us. I don't really have advice, I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The motion to be used is exactly the same as when riding a horse and posting to the trot - up and forward, down and backward - using your knees as a fulcrum. You are straddling him on your knees btw - facing him and staying upright. An alternative is to lean over him and move toward his head and then toward his feet - back and forth - which will translate to in and out for him.

Get your 'girl' on and pounce upon him like a cat - he'll love it!