Blow Job question

[sweetiez]

Hi there. My name is Amber im 21 and i have been with my fh(derek age 22) for over 2 years. And i never gave hem a Blow job. Because im still so scared. i'll do it wrong,hurt hem,not please hem ect. and worse of all get cum in my mouth. A friend of mine told me she uses condoms. do people normally use condoms? Also he has told me many times thats its okay and i'll get better. But im still so afraid. can anyone help me over come this afriadness? explain to me how you give a blow job basically. i want to do it to please hem. but i'd rather use a condom. Unless that doesn't give them the please they need?? im pretty much lost when it comes to Blow jobs. so please help me out. Thank you! And im not 'new' to this site but i have not been here in ALONG time. so 'hi' again.

[NizeGie]

A friend of mine told me she uses condoms. do people normally use condoms?

Most don't, but some do (so far as I can tell).

If your primary worry is avoiding having him come in your mouth, he should be able to avoid this. Of course, that doesn't mean that when the time comes he will, but he can. If you trust him (or sufficiently him convince of how mad you'll be if he comes in your mouth), you should be okay on that score.

But ... go ahead and use the condom if that you want to eliminate any possibility of him coming in your mouth, or if you just prefer that for other reasons.

Also he has told me many times thats its okay and i'll get better. But im still so afraid. can anyone help me over come this afriadness? explain to me how you give a blow job basically.

There are bunches of guides out there, including on this very site:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_fellatio.shtml

I haven't actually gone over it line-by-line or anything, but we'll assume the person who wrote it knows his/her stuff.

There's no good reason to be afraid. As long as you don't bite it off, he's not going to complain. Indeed, I'd bet money that he'll like it a lot, whether or not you use a condom, and whether or not your technique is virtuosic. I suppose it depends on the guy, but on the oral sex pleasure scale, I'd say:
0 = No blowjob
85 = Bad blowjob
100 = Best blowjob ever performed in world history

[demonbuttercup]

I was the same way, but my b/f was supportive and talked me thru it as far as do this or dont do that.
Plus.. oral doesn't always have to be an ender... you could always just use it as a form of foreplay... thats how I usually use it.
Then you aren't "finishing" him off... so no fear of cum in the mouth.
Or... tell him to let you know when he is close... and move your mouth away and finish him w/ your hand.

[unknown11]

dont worry my g/f has somewhat of the same problem but iv worked with her and now she trusts me enough to tell when when i am about to make a "mess"

[Psyle]

There are porno's out there that teach you how to give a blow job. All the different techniques and positions.
As for cumming in your mouth, that's very important to a lot of men. It's mostly about continuity. To take it out is so abrupt. You can deep throat him when he cums, and have it go right down your throat if you're concerned about the taste. And as for condoms.. I believe they have flavored ones.

[thetease13]

I never had a problem giving blowjobs. He was my first and apparently, I was damn good at it from the start.

While I can't help you overcome your fear, I can say that by watching a few porn videos and reading up on techniques, you can learn a lot. While I was good at it, I've improved over time and he and I both know it and really, all I can do is say that that's how I learned because I'm sure not practicing on anyone else.
I will also say that you can try a few techniques on things like blowpops and popsicles. I've always loved blowpops and popsicles so I'm sure that helped a lot with things, but think about it, if you go wrong with them, you can't hurt anything. lol.

And you don't have to swallow. A lot of guys want you to swallow, but if you don't want to, don't. The taste can be awkard at times, I will say that. But it all depends on what they eat. Have him eat a bunch of fruits and veggies before hand, like sweet fruits and celery, and when all that goes through his system (which will take awhile), he should taste a little sweeter rather than bitter.