i cant give him an orgasm

[lilsavvie013]

I'm in a relationship and its going good. Except, I cannot give my boyfriend an orgasm. He can please me though. He doesn't say anything about it but I know it bothers him. I dont want to lose him because I can't please him. And yes a relationship is personality but also a big part is sex. Someone please help me.

[erin]

have you given other people orgasms before and tried the same techniques, i assume? if not, there are tons of resources on this site that explain how to do things already.
but if the basics have already been covered, then there is something he needs to tell you. that he never cums with anyone but himself.. or he is gay... or has a particular, possibly obscure fetish...or that there is a certain little spot that will trigger it if touched just the right way...

[Brandye]

You are correct - you cannot GIVE anyone an orgasm; we are each responsible for our own.

You are assuming responsibility for something you cannot MAKE happen. If he chooses to do something about it, you can be supportive and participate in therapy as indicated. Otherwise, do not beat up on yourself for something you cannot, unilaterally, correct.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by Brandye

You are correct - you cannot GIVE anyone an orgasm; we are each responsible for our own.

You are assuming responsibility for something you cannot MAKE happen. If he chooses to do something about it, you can be supportive and participate in therapy as indicated. Otherwise, do not beat up on yourself for something you cannot, unilaterally, correct.

Bingo.

End of thread.

If he can't communicate with you about this then you two have no business having sex.