How come?

[M1chae1]

I don't think telling him you want him to be more vocal is the way to go about it. You have to do it in such a way as to not make him feel like he's doing something wrong.

Also, I ask that you consider the idea that he is who he is. There is a difference between asking your lover to do a certain physical act that you like, as opposed to telling them to be more vocal. One is technique and skill, the other is who they are. In all actuality, you really shouldn't want to ask these things--it would be like me asking my lover to fake an orgasm. You don't want to feel like the sounds coming out of his mouth aren't truthful and in the moment right? All people are different, and we all are unique in the way we deal with pleasure, stimulation, and ecstasy.

The above concerns itself with breathing and moaning more loudly--those are nearly systems we do not consciously control. If we are to take the other form of vocal into account, it is a different story, but in the same book. So now we have talking: expressing wants, dirty talk, playful banter, sexy sweet-nothings. You can tell a lover you like to express these things to each other during sex. If someone isn't a dirty talker...then they aren't a dirty talker, so don't force it. Some people think they aren’t dirty talkers until you get a few drink into them, and lead the way.

But again, you should not try to change anybody. Your lover is your lover--it is ok to express what you like to do and hear, but it's their prerogative whether they want to accept the baton or not.

[champloo]

i think that if any guy moans, its not because he made himself moan, but because his body ?made him? ( not sure if i worded that right)

[M1chae1]

This is my point. Everyone is different, and everyone is naturally vocal or not--so why would you want someone to do something that is unnatural to them? You're either with someone that is verbal and vocal, or you're not. You have to play with the cards delt you.

[Lackadaisical]

Because of living situations, my boyfriend and I have to shush each other, but when we are alone...we're both far too loud. Neighbours down the block would probably complain if they realized it was us. Moaning, screaming, whimpering...any sound you can make is usually made. The sound of him enjoying himself only turns me on more, and I often find myself reachign orgasm just from watching and listening to him.

[ShadesRuda]

My best friend complains that her husband doesn't make any sounds because he's self-consicous and he doesn't think it's right. It drives her nuts too.

My boyfriend does make sounds and it is SO FREAKIN' HOT. I brought out a tape recorder the first time I gave him head and it's the best he'd ever sounded to me.

If he isn't making enough sound for me while I'm doing something I'll tease him and tell him to ask for more, or moan for me if he wants me to continue. I'll make my technique better the more sounds he makes.