How do I make his first time REALLY good?

[sweetheart05]

Hey! This is my first post here. I'm 22 and my fiance is 20. We've been together for four years, but because of our religous beliefs, neither of us have had sex before. We decided to wait until our wedding night (which is approaching) I'm very excited because we've been through so much together, losing parents and everything. We love each other more than one person can ever love another. So both of us are very very excited to make love for the first time. We haven't even had much foreplay before, just some heated make out sessions. But since we love each other so much, it takes very minimal contact for us to get each other aroused. Most guys could never wait like he did, so I want to really make it worth the wait. I'm not naive, i know the first time isn't going to be incredibly comfortable for me, but then again I know it's not going to be incredibly awful because i'm going to be very comfortable with him and i'm physically and emotionally ready to take this step with him. Can anyone tell me some things to do to really make his orgasm more intense? Keep in mind, i'm not a sex expert. So any advice would be very much appreciated. I want to give this guy some serious pleasure because he's worth it for waiting for four years with me! -lol-

[girl12]

Well hello there! That's very cool that you are so in love with him and want to show him a good time....

A lot of people will say that foreplay is one of the most
important parts of making love. So here are some foreplay tips:

Make sure that you have lubrication!

Erogenous Zones

Fellatio techniques


Hand techniques

Foreplay

And for the intercourse part of things:


Her first time

His first time

Intercourse


Have fun!

[moose_hd]

Most important thing here is to be able to relax and not "try too hard" or be overly self conscious of your performance.

Once you get concerned about whether or not it's working is when it will fall apart and you'll have to start over again.

Best of luck and I hope your new life with your husband goes smoothly!!

[lonely_me]

hmm first off al..wear sexy lingerie....
show him ur intrested....i think men get turned on when women have the upper hand in bed....
but before u actaullay have sex...lot of forplay is very important....
maybe u can try a massage....
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[moose_hd]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (lonely_me @ Dec. 03 2005,16:35)]show him ur intrested....i think men get turned on when women have the upper hand in bed....

Making it very clear that you're interested and wanting him as a man is a very good idea, but not all men want the woman to have the upper hand. It varies from person to person.

[kitty_robyn]

awww, i'm happy for both of you. here's some ideas--undress him and just take a look at what you're working with. grab his penis, rub it, touch it, run your hands all over it. let him do the same for you. when you're ready to have sex, i would recommend you being on top. it'll be easiest for you to control the amount of force, pressure, and it will probably be most comfortable. do what feels good to you. if a back and forth motion works, go with that. up and down is another common motion. all in all, the key for his orgasm is repetitive motion. you two sound like you are a very sensuous couple, so look into his eyes, tell him you love him, hold him close-- that'll make the experience magical.

a couple other notes-- bring some lube, just in case. apply it if you feel a little discomfort. play with yourself a few days before the wedding (in private, of course, lol). this is just to loosen you up a bit, so you don't have so much tension and so you are comfortable with yourself.

have fun and have a blessed marriage!

[2little]

i got here late and everyone pretty much posted what i was going to say. but i do want to mention, no matter what you do, he'll love it cause he will have nothing to compare to right? so just enjoy yourself.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Actually it won't be all that great because this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind as both of you have no idea of what you're doing.

So, there are several questions that must be asked:

1. have you masturbated on your own to orgasm?
2. have you had a gyne exam?
3. have you both done your blood work?
4. were you ever exposed to abuse between the ages of 4 to 7?

There are important reasons for each question.

BTW there is no need to 'make it special' for him - it already is 'special' for him and he's most likely worrying himself to death over it "performance anxiety" being what it is. Find, read, and then do (the best you can) the sticky post entitled The Program. It works very very well and will help you both get off on the right foot.

[VanellaSchnella]

Id suggest reading most of the articles and stickies on this site and he will wanna do the same. I know that takes time but itll make it better. But still the first time wont likely be great for the actually sex

[dancingdoc2]

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