Technique 2 stop guy from cumming...

[blondii3894]

Does anyone have a good technique for stopping a guy from cumming - ex-hot and heavy and he's ready to explode but don't want him to yet...what can a woman do? It's not a pre-ejact. problem at all - just looking to intensify and prolong things! Looking to have more control over him!
Thanks in Advance!

[thetease13]

I'm not sure there's anything you can do other than to stop... which will probably tick him off. lol.
That would be something he would have to learn to control and hold off on.

[Brandye]

Use google or other search engine and pu in "squeeze technique." This can become part of regular sex play and it works with no side-effects..

[dancingdoc2]

Blondii, here is the answer to your question. It involves performing some conditioning exercises with your boyfriend that can be both fun and perhaps initially frustrating for him; however, if the two of you spend a couple of weeks working on this it should turn things around for him--and you.


-BACKGROUND-

PE affects nearly every young man from puberty to about the mid-twenties. It can often go away on its own after several years of sexual activity, but who wants to wait "several years" when the cure is only several days away. Sorry, no instant cure-all, here, however, the procedure is fairly quick, painless, and free.

-PE DEFINED-
Premature Ejaculation is most often defined as the inability for the male of the species to control the timing of his climax. It in effect sneeks up on him and before he is aware or can do anything about stopping it--BAM! he is over the hump, and is experiencing an orgasm and ejaculation.

He then wonders how this happened to him and why he couldn't have done something about it. The answer is in two parts.
* As teens we do not necessarily care about the precise timing of an orgasm. We might choose sooner or later but not the second. Later, when in a relationship, the timing is important.
* The solution is to learn how to get in touch with and manage the sensations associated with three benchmarks spaced along our arousal curve. When each of us is able to do this then we are able to recognize what feelings go with which benchmark and can then decide how and when we want to orgasm.

-BENCHMARKS-
The male aroual curve is bell-shaped with a fairly narrow base. The overall curve for women is much much broader and the trailing edge curve is considerably shallower. This equates in time to being able to enjoy the afterglow for several hours to the rest of the day!

The first benchmark is located near the top of the left upward part of the curve. The second benchmark is located just to the left of the downward slope in what is referred to as the plateau (phase). The third is located at that juncture.

-BENCHMARK CUES-
The first benchmark occurs when you are very highly aroused yet will not coast past the trigger point of an orgasm. Recognizing and being able to control your actions at this point is important for the following reasons:
1. So you can pause, slide back down the curve until the sense of urgency subsides, then be brought back up one or more times to augment your overall ardor.
2. To have sufficient time to get into position for intercourse.
3. To be able to change the type of stimulation in order to enhanse the triggering of an orgasm.
4. To be able to withdraw the penis from the mouth so that you do not ejaculate inside, or, so the woman can raise her tongue in order to have the ejaculate spurt against the bottom of the tongue rather than the back of the mouth.

The second benchmark is important because you want to reliably predict when the orgasm is about to be triggered, yet you cannot prevent it.

This one is important for 3 & 4, above, also.

The third benchmark occurs immediately after the beginning of the orgasm but before the semen comes out.

Once you can consistently and reliably predict the first benchmark, then you can manage your climaxes inorder to pause and rebuild them over and over; or control the timing of them so that you can cum when it suits you--within reason.

-CLOSING THE GAP-
This done, the next thing to do is to up the ante' and to move the first benchmark closer to number two. This takes practise but the reward should be obvious.

-EXERCISE BASICS-
Here is how to undertake the training exercise. Enlist the help of your girlfriend or wife and explain all of the above to her so that she understands both the importance of what you will be doing as well as its relevence.

Plan to devote several days to a couple of weeks to the task, depending upon how often the two of you can get together. Ideally, the trainng should be done once or perhaps twice a day; however, this is not always possible. If not, the results are still the same, although the duration is a bit longer.

Undertake each exercise at a time when the two of you do not plan to be romantic.
NOTE: Expect that failures will happen from time to time. DO NOT make a big deal out it when it happens, just laugh it off and try, again, later. HAVE FUN with them! even though there is a serious purpose for all this.

-THE EXERCISE-
The man should recline on the bed with his partner beside him. She sould approach the first few training sessions as if she was giving a "quickie"; meaning, no kissing and fondling, just cutting to the chase and stimulating his penis.

Her task is to build your arousal slowly toward where you think the first benchmark is, then, pause when you notify her. This is where you might mess up and go over the edge. Don't worry about it if you do.

Your task, of course, is to learn to identify the sensations you are feeling with the actual benchmark. When you can do this consistently and reliably, then try moving the first benchmark closer to the second that is the trigger point of your orgasm.

When you inform your partner that you have reached the first benchmark, she must pause {read: FREEZE! All movement), stop all stimulation, so you can slide back down the curve until you feel the urgency leave and are back in control. She must understand that even the slightest movement is often enough to make the man coast over the edge and have an orgasm.

This done, have her repeat the cycle one or more times in order to further increase your sexual tension. At the end, go ahead and have an orgasm.

-UPPING THE ANTE-
Once you are in control of the first benchmark, then work on moving it closer to number two. This is after you learn to identify the sensations accociated with the triggering of your orgasm. The intent is to narrow the gap between the two and to give you greater flexibility with the span between the two.

It is during this phase of your training that you can have your partner add in all kissing, necking, petting and stuff that normally preceeds the foreplay. Doing so will raise the stakes for you and make these sessions more enjoyable, while at the same time making them more challenging to control.

-GRADUATION-
The purpose for the exercises is to get the pleasure center of your brain in touch with all the millions of nerve endings in your skin via the autonomic nervous system. Our skin is our BIGGEST sexual organ. Controlling what it is doing for us will control the next largest organ.

Even though PE will revisit us on rare occasion throughout our lives, these transitory episodes are usually an inconvenience, not the problem they are before doing the training.

You will find that once you can control your orgasms, you can then time them to happen when you want. If one is about to happen when you are not ready, then you will have sufficient warning to pause or freeze, wait, and then continue after a bit, all the while maintaining control.

Questions?

[DannyBoy]

i think there is away ladys. it works for me so i'll share.

ur partner will have to give u warning thou.

when he feels like he is gonna cum get off him and sqeeze just under the bell. not to hard but sqeeze it, this should do it. like i said it works for me.